I've never been a jelouse person in my life..but now i don't know whats wrong with me, when ever my partner looks at another girl I get this ugly feeling inside. I hate it and I wish I didn't feel that way. There is trust in our relationship, but ...idk..I think I have a currupted mind...is that bad?
Jealousy is often a barameter of our own emotional state. When we feel insecure or inadequate, we are hypersensitive to what goes on about us.
I believe you had a baby fairly recently. If you feel anything like I did in that first year or so afterwards, you feel tired, ovewhelmed and you tend to put yourself on the back burner in order to care for your family and home.
You also often have to deal with a post baby body, which doesn't always bounce right back. You don't have time to pamper yourself or do the things that you used to do to feel good about yourself. It's easy to see young beautiful girls as "the enemy", even though you know in your heart of hearts that you have nothing to fear.
You say that you love your husband and that you know he won't cheat. Trust your instincts and don't allow yourself to go down that road. If you continue to harbor these feelings of inadequacy and jealousy, it will eat away at the very structure of your marriage.
It's time to reconnect with your husband. See if family will watch the baby for a date night. Let them take the baby early, so that you have time to get all dolled up and feel attractive and desirable. Don't talk about the baby or home issues that night. Focus on you and your husband. Enjoy yourselves. This is how bonds are reforged and strengthened.
If you feel the connection, you have nothing to worry about. Good luck.
Yes, excellent answer, Lynne. She should make herself look a million dollars, new outfit, hair done, nails, the whole Kaboosh!!!!!!! I am sure its post birth, positive!
Are you sure you have no trust issues regarding your husband?
The reason I ask is this: When a person feels jealousy, there are only two reasons.
1. Some part of you believes your partner can't be trusted to be faithful.
2. Your self-esteem is running low and in the back of your mind, you feel it may dawn on him that he could do better.
The question that only you can answer is, which is it? In order to find the answer, you will need to be COMPLETELY honest with yourself.
I wish we could tell you what is in his mind or yours, but we can't.
yes-terrible.jealousy is ALWAYS bad & never a productive emotion.but YOU are feeling something & never second think YOU. intuition is a real thing* just make sure you are not confusing your emotions.
Jelousy is a fact of life. you just got to show him that you are the one for him and always will be and it is important to express your feelings in a relationship to keep it strong
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Jealousy is often a barameter of our own emotional state. When we feel insecure or inadequate, we are hypersensitive to what goes on about us.
I believe you had a baby fairly recently. If you feel anything like I did in that first year or so afterwards, you feel tired, ovewhelmed and you tend to put yourself on the back burner in order to care for your family and home.
You also often have to deal with a post baby body, which doesn't always bounce right back. You don't have time to pamper yourself or do the things that you used to do to feel good about yourself. It's easy to see young beautiful girls as "the enemy", even though you know in your heart of hearts that you have nothing to fear.
You say that you love your husband and that you know he won't cheat. Trust your instincts and don't allow yourself to go down that road. If you continue to harbor these feelings of inadequacy and jealousy, it will eat away at the very structure of your marriage.
It's time to reconnect with your husband. See if family will watch the baby for a date night. Let them take the baby early, so that you have time to get all dolled up and feel attractive and desirable. Don't talk about the baby or home issues that night. Focus on you and your husband. Enjoy yourselves. This is how bonds are reforged and strengthened.
If you feel the connection, you have nothing to worry about. Good luck.