Until you get your life in order and stop drinking, you will never get this fixed. Your drinking causes paranoia. Your drinking causes much of your trouble. You need to go into rehab and start dealing with this illness and get the help that you need. Whether or not you can save your marriage is up to you and your wife. If you show a true desire to change and follow through on it, give her some time to see if you are true to your word, and go into counseling to try to fix your marriage and maybe you two might be able to salvage this.

There has been a lot of harm done and who knows if it can be undone. Regardless of whether or not you can save your marriage, you need to get your life in order so that you can finally start moving forward and have a life. I hope you make the move to do this. Good luck.

maby your wife needs some time away from you.meanwhile you should work on your drinking and other isues .she is probably tired of hearing about how your going to change and now she needs to see it actions speek louder than words and absents make the heart grow stronger. Good luck.