>How do you see it for yourself in a relationship? You're (probably) lucky, important, and if it crashes, oh well at least you know not to do that again.

>Do you find a partner that initiates making love often to be showing you that they have sexual desire for you?
Yes. Sex is the most important thing in a relationship.

>Do you find a partner that walks up behind you and hugs you, kisses your back or shoulder, tells you that they love you and helps you, listens to you, and, is very much there for you as showing only love to you, but, that has not the desire for you sexually?
That is sort of bad, but not really. If you aren't OK with it, ask him about it.

>Do you find the above only ways to show love and not sexual desire, that initiating can mean a lot of things, and, doesn't spell desire for your partner sexually??
Sort of. It can really affect your love if you don't have any sexual desire.

>What do you feel shows a partner that you desire them sexually because they are such a good lover to you sexually you need them?
If you make love and talk about it a lot, he should talk to you about it and tell him that you desire him sexually because he is such a good lover to you, that, sexually you need him.

The first thing is that males and females have a very different attitude about this and for very good biological reasons. Women have a lot more invested in the long term outcome than men.

How do you see it for yourself in a relationship?
I am in a successful long term relationship. There is a lot of give and take.

>Do you find a partner that initiates making love often to be showing you that they have sexual desire for you?
That is what it means. Of course men get sexual desire pretty easily sometimes.

>Do you find a partner that walks up behind you and hugs you, kisses your back or shoulder, tells you that they love you and helps you, listens to you, and, is very much there for you as showing only love to you, but, that has not the desire for you sexually?
Men learn that women love this. Some women require it and for them it is often sexual. Men show love this way and what is wrong with that? Sex is something else.

>Do you find the above only ways to show love and not sexual desire, that initiating can mean a lot of things, and, doesn't spell desire for your partner sexually??
You can have love and sexual desire at the same time. For men they are a little more separated. For women it is a little different and men almost never understand women. I don't understand why women worry about this, I just know that they do.

>What do you feel shows a partner that you desire them sexually because they are such a good lover to you sexually you need them? Performance goes a long ways towards that. Occasionally the mind is willing but the flesh is not. For that you should forgive.

Me and my husband have both, love and desire for each other. A feeling that both of you cant take your hands off. 24 hours a the day is not enough as if there is no tomorrow.

We are both spiritually grounded person and our secret, we follow the counsel of bible “Husbands, continue loving your wives, just as the Christ also loved the congregation and delivered up himself for it.” So a good husband will try to imitate that unselfish attitude, seeking the good of his wife, rather than be demanding of her. When a husband is subject to Christ and displays Christlike love and respect, his wife will be motivated to subject herself to him.

"Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband.” the emphasis is on giving —not on demanding. Physical intimacy in marriage is truly satisfying only if each partner is concerned about the good of the other

By applying the Bible’s counsel regarding sex, we will be able to avoid falling into temptation and committing adultery. We can continue to enjoy delightful intimacy in a marriage in which sex is treasured as a wholesome gift from the Originator of marriage, Jehovah.

Proverbs 5: 15 "Drink water out of your own cistern, and tricklings out of the midst of your own well. 16 Should your springs be scattered out of doors, [your] streams of water in the public squares themselves? 17 Let them prove to be for you alone, and not for strangers with you. 18 Let your water source prove to be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth, 19 a lovable hind and a charming mountain goat. Let her own breasts intoxicate you at all times. With her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly. "