What would really kill me is if my partner keept throwing my clothes onto the chandelier after she stripped me. I am really short so i would have to wear my platform boots to reach my clothes.

Dead!

I don't believe in sex outside of marriage.
Anyone I would marry should believe this also.
Another deal breaker would be that they become so inhibited that they can't perform inside of marriage.

Sex outside of marriage causes so many problems for society that it is not a joke. The solution is education.

My grandmother always said that if you can't dance with a guy your rythm is not the same and you should move on. I've been in your situation before and would suggest that you try to brake-up in the most humane fashion and to try and stay friends as your friendship is greater than the physical. If you really still would like to give it a go - why not try something different like telling him what you'd like him to do and take it from there. Good luck.

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ok, if they only ever wanted to make love in the same position day in day out. I think you need to have at least a little variety in your sexlife.

Take an ex of mine for example. Would allways want me to go on top, and would say that they never felt comfortable in any other position.

I think it would hurt less to be told now, than 3 yrs down the road when for what ever reason, than to find out second hand that you or them were not faithfull. We have a responsability to remain with that one person after marriage, so its now or never I guess.

You could allso see if they were willing to see a sex theropist together, at home may be better for them as these surroundings are more comfortable to talk about these things than meeting other people in a waiting room. Good luck to you, this cannot be easy but that you are asking peoples addvice is a good sign that you want to sort this matter out. Again good luck!!!

If I waited to be happy sexually.....................I would be all alone. Sad but true.

What would be 'the deal breaker' will of course vary from person to person. Whether or not you can end up staying in this marriage long term would remain to be seen, while we all go in, initially, thinking 'forever'. I can tell you that the chances are pretty good that if something really bugs you, either about the METHODS/PREFERENCES they employ sexually, or, your gut reactions to the person physically just turn you off, period, this will NOT be able to remain your little secret that you put up with, for very long. Even a good actor will eventually not be able to maintain their revulsion forever.It will make itself evident in little, then big ways, to your partner. If it is a preference of your partner that you can't tolerate, you need to gently raise the topic and open a dialogue about it...see how important this is or isn't to your partner. The answer may surprise you. Maybe it's no big deal to them, something they're quite willing to forgo. Maybe they don't know any better and need to know how it would work better for you. If they're lacking in skill or imagination, this is up to you, too. You do need to take the reins and the initiative and just take-over in bed, showing how much better it can all be. IF however there is something more vague, something you can't quite discern about how this sexual relationship just isn't working for you but you know it's just not, you need to do some heavy thinking before you proceed with marriage. If just their physical, naked nearness, or their natural scent, or whatever, is a turn-off to you, this is a red flag. In a basic, primal way, you are not meant to be together sexually. If you can't get past that... and decide that you will live with it anyway, you are asking for this dissatisfaction to rear it's ugly head in any number of OTHER ways outside the bedroom, in the relationship, and it surely will. Forever is a long time. I would, at the very least, make a concerted effort to CHANGE what you find off-putting. If you know that you cannot, and decide to marry anyway, you will be most unfair to your partner who thinks you're quite content, because, you will be setting him up in a relationship that WILL eventually fail. can you be married and not have sex? Of course! But you'd better have a real solid, satisfying relationship (and he/she better feel you do as well) and you'd better be in agreement. if your partner thinks things are swell, and you slowly, over the years, just stop sleeping with him or her, you've betrayed that person terribly.

Your question seems a little bit messy to me...there are so many factors about liking a person or not liking not only sexual pleasure but its also an important factor.Let me say that if i like or love a person then i'll like him or her with his other disabilities present in him or her...it may be of sexual pleasure in bed or other pleasures,enjoyments in life outside bedroom.I would like a person make me unhappy when the sexual response is from my side only and he or she is just submitting himself or herself to me only for the sake of duty,no love,no deep feeling.no affection..I wouldn't like a person acting as my sexual slave or servant.Actions of dominance must have to be come from the other side...
If there's some other unusual disabilities like physical or mental of my partner so that he/she can't make me totally happy in bed then there's nothing much to do if we don't want to get divorced or broken up in love relation.If he or she is a good friend and loves me true,yes really true lover..then it would give me happiness than ever if he/she can't really just make me happy sexually in bed.

hi there,
Well i getting married this summer and my man is hot hot hot and very good in the bedroom arrea??
But i would say try karrma???
or just get a pair of sexy hand cuffs and tie him down and u take over show him what u want?????u go girl xxxxxgood luck hun/8965