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Child sex abuse by step parent
Asked by: peteh
from HOUSTON, TX
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I am a 54 year old w/2 lovely daugther & a wife I have been marriage 21yrs i believe that i have been a victim of being bamboozlement by my wife.About 18yrs ago it started my wife has never helped me w/anything from cleaning the house to hanging a picture I believe she was victim of sexual abuse as a small child by her step-father My wife& her mother always joking that me and my father were twins meaning we both have the same drive to suceed in business and other traits i thought nothing of that.At our wedding my father-law stated if my wife need anything just call him I thought nothing of the statement.After having kids it went downhill no sex no cleaning,cooking,and when asked she would say nothing w/ a smile and it is still like that2day. My wife use elaborate methods of deception,deceit& mystifing tact like i miss placed something @ home when i askshe states someone must have a key the girls & I asked her ? did see mean she just smiled and walk away I found? I was looking for2wks later.When my wife wanted something she call her stepfather and ask for it and he camew/$$ this went on for yrs .When my wife &I make love,as soon as I touch her she would start rubbing her eyes & start crying this has happen for 21yrs when I ask her ? wrong she says I am ok& making love to her makes me fell like I am raping her she fights me off everytime.Two wks ago my wife mother passed away after the funreal my wife stopped talking to him but he calls everyday all day&nite last week he called& left a message on the recorder stating This is your dad I need you to come over& check on me& if you need to rest you can sleep in my bed(red flag).Well i have tried to give you as much info but 21yrs I have seen and heard a lot.My wife& I are seperated since last friday& she don,t even know that I have found out why our relation has been@ the northpole for 21yrs I have told only my babysister I want to help her but how ? I believe when she C me she think&C him we could pass fordad&son
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This is the answer that you will not like but the appropriate one. Your problem was and is your lack of testicles. Did your father live this way? You need to find someone to teach you how to be a man. Your wife is playing games. She could never have done these things to a man. Wake up! YOU LIVED WITH THIS FOR 21 YEARS???? Please get help for your daughters....
Answer Date: 12:18am 11/03/07
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I think you are better off now, if you think so. If you want to help your wife, you should talk her into seeing a psychiatrist. Good luck to you.
Answer Date: 02:39am 10/12/07
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Sounds like you both need to sit down and calmly discuss your fears in this issue. Marriage is too important to let past childhood issues distroy the relationship even one this serious. I also suggest that you try to convince her to seek a therapist and possibly confront her father. Since her mother died, she is beginning to shun the step-father... it may be a good start for healing. I highly suggest a therapist!!!
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Answer Date: 03:54am 10/12/07
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More than anything your two lovly daughters need both mom and dad. It's long time of 21 yrs. and your wife was a vicitim so if you really care for her then interact with her and try to convince her directly for psychiatric help. Also try to find if she was victimsed and raped when she was a minor? If this is so then help her to report this abuse to your county police department so that such maniacs can be taught a lesson who does such henious crime.
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Answer Date: 03:13am 10/14/07
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i still do not see how her dark childhood could effect her helping you. Just because someone said you and her stepfather are alike does not mean you guys are complete duplicates. You have never done any abuse on to her, so why would she think that way? I think I might hav to disagree with you on your theory that she was abused, but u obviusly know her more than I do. So if what you think is true, I would definitly talk to her. this could affect her reationship with you and her children. This could be risky, but I think ...
Answer Date: 10:47am 10/21/07
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i had a step father like that, lucky for me it was one time. don't get me wrong the damage is still real. tell her you know and be very open to her. let out something very tragic in your life and what may have helped you to get through it. push, just not very hard. sadly it will make her clam up more. go to a group together, not even one about abuse anything, so she can see how talking can really help. i never would have told until i did just that. it was an amazing experience to see. my family DOES NOT show emotions or...
Answer Date: 06:39am 10/23/07
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