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should sex after marriage come to a stop?
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Should sex after marriage come to a shreaking hault? My husband and I have been married for 9 months and he has completely lost interest in sex. We don't even have kids yet. I'm 28 and he's 27 so we're still relatively young? I've asked him about it and he says "i don't know, I'm happy". He's very affectionate with me and always tells me he loves me its just now we barely have sex? It all started when we were being intimate one day and he just completely stopped in the middle, like he lost interest or gave up which really hurt my feelings. I really became angry with this when i noticed he was still looking at porn pretty much every time i wasn't around. Don't get me wrong porn does not bother me what bothered me about this is that You would think he would be really turned on and come to me afterwards because honestly i don't mind porn. I confronted him about this and he stopped watching it all together which i gathered he thought porn was the problem not the lack of sex? I've come to realize that it isn't his sex drive because you have to have a sex drive to watch porn and I know he isn't having an affair. Our only stress in life is that we've moved recently and don't really like where we are and we've both gained a little weight nothing real noticeable?
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I know you have been married for 9 months, but if this is the first time you and you husband have been married, maybe he feels a little uncomfortable, like he's not good enough for you anymore because he's selfconcious about gaining weight or stressed out because you guys moved somewhere you don't like. And I know this is going to sound wierd, but if you guys are having unprotected sex because your married maybe your husbands worried that you'll get pregnant. If you want to have kids someday, talk to your husband and se...
Answer Date: 11:40pm 10/08/07
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First and most important is a medical checkup where this is discussed. In addition to the regular things, testosterone levels might be checked. Any diseases like diabetes, or current medications could be the cause. This includes illegal drugs like marijuana.
Next issue is self gratification. If he is, then the issue of erectile dysfunction is the cause and this can be addressed. If not then the issue of stress is a real problem and this can be addressed....
Next issue is self gratification. If he is, then the issue of erectile dysfunction is the cause and this can be addressed. If not then the issue of stress is a real problem and this can be addressed....
Answer Date: 05:53am 10/06/07
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If you feel there is a health issue or you have not discussed possible pregnancy, then the answers you have recieved are good advice. If you feel that this is just an emotional shift, an open line of communication is key. My first husband and I didn't talk about our sex-life at all...and I wasn't happy--I don't think he was either. Now, in my second marriage, we discuss EVERYTHING. I really mean it. Positions, roll playing, "toys", fantasies--all of it. I would ask you a few questions: What kind of porn was he...
Answer Date: 09:15am 10/12/07
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Sex shouldn't come to a stop because you get married. If you've only been married for 9 months, you should still be in the honeymoon phase and have an active sex life. After a few years, the sexual relationship can hit the doldrums but not after 9 months.
Your husband must have some issues that he's not talking about. You should try to have a conversation with him and explain how you're feeling and how...
Your husband must have some issues that he's not talking about. You should try to have a conversation with him and explain how you're feeling and how...
Answer Date: 08:29pm 10/12/07
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