Maybe you can suggest to her that when you are having an argument, the idea is that you talk about a problem in a calm, constructive way, without the tense emotions and hurt feelings, that both impede a solution to the problem. Some people cry when they are angry. She could be one of those people. Or, maybe she feels that she is not making you happy or disappointing you in some way, and that hurts her. Whatever the reason, the fact is that she chooses to behave the way she does, and you behave the way you do. She may no...

Maybe you can suggest to her that when you are having an argument, the idea is that you talk about a problem in a calm, constructive way, without the tense emotions and hurt feelings, that both impede a solution to the problem. Some people cry when they are angry. She could be one of those people. Or, maybe she feels that she is not making you happy or disappointing you in some way, and that hurts her. Whatever the reason, the fact is that she chooses to behave the way she does, and you behave the way you do. She may not be able to avoid high emotion during an argument, anymore than you can display your's easily. She is who she is, and you are who you are, plain and simple. Remember, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?" I think that's true!! Anyway, a simple rub on the shoulder won't kill you. But, you could tell her that there's no sense in things escalating, when they can be talked about, calmly, without accusation or hurt feelings. I am a woman, and I struggle with my emotions at times. My husband and I have learned to choose our words carefully, because you can't take them back. We also have learned to not make mountains out of molehills. Best wishes to you. Hope all goes well for you both......

When your wife cries during an argument, you interpret this as a weakness on her part,. because she lacks the emotional strength to stand up for herself! This is a turn-off for you! You don't feel sorry for her! You lose respect for her! This doesn't mean you don't love her - it means you admire strength in a woman. If she's sad for a legitimate reason, you want to console her, because it means she is sensitive, not weak! There's a big difference!...

When your wife cries during an argument, you interpret this as a weakness on her part,. because she lacks the emotional strength to stand up for herself! This is a turn-off for you! You don't feel sorry for her! You lose respect for her! This doesn't mean you don't love her - it means you admire strength in a woman. If she's sad for a legitimate reason, you want to console her, because it means she is sensitive, not weak! There's a big difference!