Oh dear, poor you. Well there are three ways to go about this. The first two are honest.

1. Change your mind and give him a child.

2. Tell him the truth and ride the storm. Did he only marry you for your reproductive abilities? I doubt it.
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Oh dear, poor you. Well there are three ways to go about this. The first two are honest.

1. Change your mind and give him a child.

2. Tell him the truth and ride the storm. Did he only marry you for your reproductive abilities? I doubt it.

3. Keep taking the pill and don't tell him and appear disappointed each period. You may be able to keep this up for a year and this buys you time to consider one of the first two options.

Best of luck.

None of my business, but were you upfront about it before you got married?

You're in a terribly sad situation and I'm very sorry. It's not selfish to not want kids. It is honest.

He needs to hear you when you tell him that you don't want this, and that ...

None of my business, but were you upfront about it before you got married?

You're in a terribly sad situation and I'm very sorry. It's not selfish to not want kids. It is honest.

He needs to hear you when you tell him that you don't want this, and that you won't do this. I don't know where the problem comes from: maybe you weren't clear and definite enough (for fear of him leaving), or maybe he just chooses not to hear it (for fear of wanting to leave).

NOT all women are happy to be mothers "once it happens", sometimes they even wanted kids but in retrospect wish they hadn't had them. (This sometimes sounds impossible to women who have and love their kids, but it's true.) You are wise in refusing to "test it out". The consequences could be disastrous.

This really sounds like an issue you two should discuss together with a counselor. Making the decision between children or each other is impossible. But if does boil down to that - you can't be together, you shouldn't drag it out for years.

well you should have talked about all of this before you married, but what is the harm in having one more child? if this man is kind enough to take on a child thats not he's he is a good person why not repay his kindness with a child of hes own

HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION IS VERY IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR HUSBAND AND HOW YOU FEEL NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME IS. HE'S YOUR HUSBAND NOW SO HE HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO REPECT YOUR DECISION. BECAUSE WHEN HE DO FIND OUT, IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM TO TRUST YOU AND YOU DONT WANT TO START OUT A MARRIAGE WITH SECRETS.

if you just got married you should be honest and explain how you feel