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Love, mixed messages, problems, confusion...please help.
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I apologize in advance for this being long.
So I dated this girl for 2 years, and then she had to move to Kansas for a few reasons. I dated around and slept around a bit to try to get over her, and a few months after she moved I met this girl. I took her out, thinking it would last a couple weeks at most, not intending to get into anything even remotely serious. But after our first few dates, I could tell that this was gonna be more than just a hook up; this girl was different. We went out a few more times, and I just sort of went along with the direction that we were heading. We ended up dating for a little over 6 months, and I was the first serious relationship that she had.she fell in love with me, or at least as much as one can in 6 months. Unfortunately, I didn't feel the same. I had put up an emotional wall after the first girl moved because I didn't really want to deal with that again, and as a result I didn't allow myself to get too close to this girl. She found out about the previous relationship, and asked me if I still loved my ex. I wasn't still in love with her, but I did still have some feelings from her. After 2 years, that's pretty much inevitable. But I wasn't still in love with her. Being as this girl had never been in love with anybody before, she didn't quite understand this. It eventually led to us breaking up, and because I had kept myself distanced from any real emotions toward this girl, I didn't do much to stop it. After a couple weeks of not being with her, I started really thinking about what we had and what I had given up, and also about why things had turned out the way they did. I realized that there was a connection between us and I was starting to share the same feelings. It took her 4 semi-serious boyfriends over the course of another 5 months to even begin to get over me. I didn't want to say anything about my feelings toward her because she appeared to be happy, and I didn't want to do anything to ruin that. I told her the day after New Years, leading to the breaking up of her boyfriend of the time. Since then, she's told me that she loves me, that she wanted a relationship, that she's unsure about getting into a relationship, that she doesn't love me, that she's got too many things going on for a relationship, , etc. We made plans a few times to go out, and all but 2 fell through. Then we ran into each other 2 days before my birthday in a place that was really the last place I would have expected. We made out a few times, all but once initiated by her. She said that she misses me and loves me and can't stand to be without me, but then said that she was still unsure about a relationship.
I'm confused. I don't get her.
Somebody please help.
So I dated this girl for 2 years, and then she had to move to Kansas for a few reasons. I dated around and slept around a bit to try to get over her, and a few months after she moved I met this girl. I took her out, thinking it would last a couple weeks at most, not intending to get into anything even remotely serious. But after our first few dates, I could tell that this was gonna be more than just a hook up; this girl was different. We went out a few more times, and I just sort of went along with the direction that we were heading. We ended up dating for a little over 6 months, and I was the first serious relationship that she had.she fell in love with me, or at least as much as one can in 6 months. Unfortunately, I didn't feel the same. I had put up an emotional wall after the first girl moved because I didn't really want to deal with that again, and as a result I didn't allow myself to get too close to this girl. She found out about the previous relationship, and asked me if I still loved my ex. I wasn't still in love with her, but I did still have some feelings from her. After 2 years, that's pretty much inevitable. But I wasn't still in love with her. Being as this girl had never been in love with anybody before, she didn't quite understand this. It eventually led to us breaking up, and because I had kept myself distanced from any real emotions toward this girl, I didn't do much to stop it. After a couple weeks of not being with her, I started really thinking about what we had and what I had given up, and also about why things had turned out the way they did. I realized that there was a connection between us and I was starting to share the same feelings. It took her 4 semi-serious boyfriends over the course of another 5 months to even begin to get over me. I didn't want to say anything about my feelings toward her because she appeared to be happy, and I didn't want to do anything to ruin that. I told her the day after New Years, leading to the breaking up of her boyfriend of the time. Since then, she's told me that she loves me, that she wanted a relationship, that she's unsure about getting into a relationship, that she doesn't love me, that she's got too many things going on for a relationship, , etc. We made plans a few times to go out, and all but 2 fell through. Then we ran into each other 2 days before my birthday in a place that was really the last place I would have expected. We made out a few times, all but once initiated by her. She said that she misses me and loves me and can't stand to be without me, but then said that she was still unsure about a relationship.
I'm confused. I don't get her.
Somebody please help.
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