in my opinion once a cheater always a cheater. from past experience i've found leopards very rarley change their spots. if a person proclaims love then casually throws that away for an hour of self gratification they have a fundemental flaw i their personality and are not to be trusted.

he might have cheated on u to make u jealous, or because he thought u were cheating on him. yes he can grow out of cheating, teen boys have no thought or sense. hey think all the pretty girls are ugly and all the ugly (rich) ones are pretty. When they grow older they start to appreciate the pretty girls, so when they grow older they can also grow out of cheating. as simple as that.

Yess duuh

I think that this is a very complicated question because its situational.

There are some people who:

a. Are addicted to sex

When they are single they are used to screwing whoever they want, they get into a relationship and cannot stop having sex with others. This type of person has likely destroyed many past relationships and will continue to do so, which makes them gravitate toward the single life.

b. Are addicted to cheating

Once they are in a relationship, they cheat because it fulfills a rush. Therefore, cheating becomes an addiction, and this type of person will not ever stop cheating.

c. Get caught in the moment

I genuinely believe it is entirely possible for someone to be attracted to someone else when they are in a relationship, get put in the right place and the right time, and act upon their attraction. Usually, this makes a person wracked with guilt and they will avoid cheating for the sake of keeping their sanity. Frequently, if a significant other has gotten caught in the moment, it is very unlikely that you will find out about it because they will be able to keep it a secret because they won't want to cheat again.

d. Wanted Excitement

Sometimes people cheat because they want to experience it. The relationship may have gotten dull and they may feel like they aren't being fully satisfied having sex with their partner. They go out and cheat, and then realize that it isn't as great as they thought it was. Or, on the flip side, they may become addicted to it (see b), at which point, they won't stop cheating.

e. Cheating as Revenge

Some people are able to justify cheating on their partner because they believe that it is the other person's fault. This type of cheater could go either way, doing it only once or doing it repeatedly. Perhaps their partner cheated on them and they want to get "even". Or maybe their partner has been neglected their obligations in the relationship (e.g. not doing their chores, not expressing affection--this one is a huge factor in why a lot of people cheat, etc.).

These are just a few examples of the types of contexts that someone could be in when they decide they want to cheat on their partner. Though, I think there are probably many more situations than the ones I have discussed in this post. I think that if you can isolate the actual reason that the person is cheating, then it may be easier to judge whether or not they will want to do it again. I don't think its logical to assume that just because a person cheats once they will automatically do it again. However, I do believe that it is completely reasonable to expect that there is a possibility that they will do it again.

A boyfriend is not a cheater he does not owe you anything you do not own someone grow up and stop being jealous and small minded!!

I think it works the same as having an addiction to drugs or alchehol, and is usually a spur of the moment thing, i think you should emphasize the importance of ur relationship

I think every once in a while you may find someone who grows out of cheating but more often than not once a cheater always a cheater.

If all of us were held responsible for nasty habits we had when we were young, I'm not sure any of us could get out of bed. Life experience changes a person. It can make us more empathic towards others (having realized finally how much we need the empathy of others) , more conscious of our effects on others (having felt great hurt at the thoughtless remarks of others) and less able to deceive (having suffered the slings and arrows of deception at the hands of others.) In other words most times, as time goes by we mature not just because of the clock, but because of the joys and sorrows that begin to fill our own histories. As we grow older hopefully we grow more sensitive and develop a greater sense of responsibility for another person.

That said, if your ex-boyfriend has been a cheater forever and is now swearing YOU WILL BE THE ONE to change that...don't believe it. He still has some growing to do. No woman can make a man change his cheating ways. Only his own personal growth can do that.

for sure!

I think it all depends on if he was a teen or an adult when he cheated on you. If someone in highschool cheats on his girlfriend, it doesn't mean he will do so as an adult. Highschool is a time of having fun, being carefree, and learning through mistakes.

If he was an adult at the time, then he'll probably do it again. I personally feel that adults who cheat have their own personal issues because of a developmental delay (phrases a teen would go through). Therefore, they are always wanting their cake and to eat it too. In essence, they are never satisfied with what they have, they are always trying for more and "better".

In order for an adult cheater to change, I believe he has to get over himself and his own issues first. This rarely happens, these creeps rarely grow up and be men.