Love is something you have to grow into and learn about in full truth with time as you are also growing into friendships, peer group attitudes,interests and obligations whether they be chores at home,wor,your futures' prerequisites like education and training,or the need to explore what is out there that may interest you and be a realistic choice for when age of maturity and decision smacks you in the face.All the while you are trying to assess the value or importance of all the other things.That's alot on your plate,an...

Love is something you have to grow into and learn about in full truth with time as you are also growing into friendships, peer group attitudes,interests and obligations whether they be chores at home,wor,your futures' prerequisites like education and training,or the need to explore what is out there that may interest you and be a realistic choice for when age of maturity and decision smacks you in the face.All the while you are trying to assess the value or importance of all the other things.That's alot on your plate,and can help direct you to focus on how far you throw yourself into things. knowing that you don't know their depth yet.That is why taking on a risky chore or job, pushing to quick in a sport,overconfidently jumping in a car,jumping into conclusions about yourself or others or taking their word can hurt you and worse things like teen pregnancy,hepatitis and alcohol or drug addiction can be so devastating to a life,and many times more than one life.And that just adds potential pressure and guilt that will fall upon you.But being young, this constant concentration wears you down and you will divert to simple or shallower distractions for fun,dreaming or just resting your mind away from responsibility for what seems chaos,once in a while.That is normal. That is growing.And that tells you growing up is not so simple.Your mind doesn't really develop responsibility until you learn the real consequences of good or bad actions and things.No one expects you to get things right the first, second or even third time.Just like your first venture as a wavering toddler or later on first tricycle, then bicycle, and for some first horse,and most, first drivers license.and even the little things like your first attempt at cracking an egg and making cookies,to taking on the responsibility of a pet,and then babysitting; know that ss long as you learn something that will give you better chances of success and appreciation the next time you try.It doesn't have to be necessarily knowledge about the yard or bike or horse or traffic cop and tow truck.More important is what you learn about yourself,honestly.Were you ready,are you ready to go again,have you learned there are risks and dangers,have you learned there is benefit,fulfillment and fun (that's why these things are fixed in culture) and in all, are you beginning to realiize these things exist and think you can begin to judge and balance them in order to try again or wait or try something else?
This is life in youth, and it doesn't end there,it just gets more intricate and deep.Parents suffer this in their new world of raising an innocent harmless kid into a sometimes rebellious,confusing,confounding,pride instilling, aggravating evolving individual teen to twentier they gotta love still.
On top of that they share every smile and every heartbreak they see you go through on top of their own.So with this they,and responsible conerning adults lay down rules to let you explore but restrict from going too far or learning too fast(precociousness) so you can adapt experience with time
and learn judgement for youself when outside their grasp or too big now for them to catch your fall. Like Johnny Depp's Capt.Jack Sparrow Pirate Codes, they're really just guidelines, subject to your abilities to first get a sense of youself and being ready for these ventures,and second,get a sense of others
sense to themselves and toward you.This goes for all aspects of knowledge, ethics, morality, physicality and legality, in other words, the heart and mind and soul.In one direction, if you get it very wrong you end up walking off a peer or driving off a road or having someone else convince or influence you to do these or let them take you along for the same end. Judgement of your own limitations comes first, then the limitations of others, then honest weighing of the consequences and are you equipped to handle them. This carries through all your life for everything.Expectations are just higher. Consequences just more sever, permant, or unfixable. So at this stage in your development, do not ever fear self doubt. Heed caution.It's more important to protect yourself, a far from finished project, and then learn to protect others. God made fools of all ages and you must feel comfortable with giving some a hand and avoiding others.Like you have heard many times said, go at your own pace,in your own time, or you'll grow into it.So don't be threatened by others rules against those you are growing under. But don't let yours stifle you into seclusion and stagnation either. Here is where a person of a different age or generation who has no self interest in you(a responsible minded one) can help answer these doubts, questions, fears and hindrances. After all, they've been through or seen it in their earlier life far enough away to give you real lasting perspective and sense of consequence.A favorite Aunt, older cousin, grandparent, teacher,adult roll model,mentor can calm you or warn you or give you enough for another lighter step forward without failing to grow,and not going too far.But they must be of good mind and heart without seeking recklessness
or acting out through manipulating you for something that didn't go right in their growth.It happens,so here is where your first true trust develops outside your immediate family.And you will more likely at some point rebell against them or disappoint them because you are not a clone,your are becoming an individual in heart,soul and mind.The Capt.Jack Codes analogy holds true for parental and adult rules as you get older for a purpose,so that,when you get more independence and responsibility of your own,you continue the habit of curiosity with caution and restraining the pace to one of which you feel comfortable with growing real confidence without them standing over your shoulders biting their nails,crying with joy or grief silently,or yelling.Then you will realize things are necessary,and in their own way they did the best to protect you but spur you on.Clint Eastwood's Dirty Harry comment holds true,for all that "a man's gotta know his limitations".But knowing these lets you still go forward,or come back another day to try. If you had lousy parents or family guidelines,just knowing that the better ones exixt,and/or finding them in a roll model or elder concern can make all the right difference in correcting your course,so no now this is how it should be,and those around under poor influence who don't see this are not trustworthy.If they can be steered right by you,after you have more consequence,then you may have a good future comrade in life's arms.If they can't,they can only put more pressure on your attempt to learn and integrate,or drag you down.

Where do you sit now? .Only you, or with the help of an honest/objective confidante(adult, mentor,roll model)who will realize how important this is to you.Understand,your ex-guy is going thru the same,albeit back a few years in development(guys are slower and sloppier due to genetics and testosterone)
and don't get things well in perspective as early as girls,nor in touch with their heart and emotions)You were hurt,and are afraid of another bruising of your heart(hopefully not your body).Listen to your self cautions,and see what,if anything in him has changed.Go further and see him in situations
to judge if anything has changed. Acknowledge your feelings and doubts and have him explain what was wrong ang what will be right and why.What has changed in him?But don't go by words,confirm with observation.And if he really feels for you, agree that if so,a little waiting time and slow pace won't make a difference.If you are warey,sit it out.Be with other friends.Then come back or move to another when you're ready.It' safest for your pace,
better for your spirit and it worked for Napoleon after Elba, well at least for awhile.You'll stumble again of course in some other day.We all do.It just looks less awkward and out of perspective.

No. How old are you?

i think u should get back with him!İts time 4u to hurt him!!!Revange is always sweet....mhhhh

Well no, actually ..if he does it once does it twice

I say No.

If he hurt you once it could be an accident if he kept on hurting you, he's a jerk
If he says he loves you but keeps on hurting you he's a liar

A lying jerk is not the type of guy for any lady
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I say No.

If he hurt you once it could be an accident if he kept on hurting you, he's a jerk
If he says he loves you but keeps on hurting you he's a liar

A lying jerk is not the type of guy for any lady


I hope you find a decent guy.

No! There are too many good ones out there to be wasting time trying to change one thats still a little boy.

only if you know he is sincere about it. if you know that he is going to break up with you again, why bother. quit having your head played with. you know you're better than that. He thinks that whenever he wants he can jus crawl back to you and you accept him. It all depends if he is sincere.

If he has been abusive in the past in any way then NO!!!!, unless of course he is willing to take the steps he need's to to become better at coping with his feelings. Trust me I have been there.

Love is blind and in most cases you can only follow your heart and hope you are making the right choice!!! No one but yourself can tell you what to do in this situation, if you think that getting back with him in spite of the hurt he has caused you in the past, is the best thing to do, then go for it!!! But if you can't handle the past don't try it!!! A relationship is built on mutual trust and respect there is no room for doubts or past problems!!!! Look inside yourself you will see the only available option for you!!!...

Love is blind and in most cases you can only follow your heart and hope you are making the right choice!!! No one but yourself can tell you what to do in this situation, if you think that getting back with him in spite of the hurt he has caused you in the past, is the best thing to do, then go for it!!! But if you can't handle the past don't try it!!! A relationship is built on mutual trust and respect there is no room for doubts or past problems!!!! Look inside yourself you will see the only available option for you!!! No matter what you are who you are, and that can't be changed stay true to yourself and you can't go wrong.....-xxx-

actually thats exactly my case!! plz if u had any solution pass it to me ;(

What you should be asking yourself is, is he worth it? Some guys do change, but then again, some don't!! If you think he's worth it n believe he's changed, then you should maybe trust your heart!!! But to safe guard yourself, don't get emotionally involved at the start!!!