Once you leave the marriage, you're free to love again. If you stay married, you should try to work things out with your wife. Affairs are too painful to even consider.

Don't marry again until you have been in and out of love a few times. You may not know what "love" really means. According to the famous psychologist Harry Stack Sullivan, "A condition of love exists when you are more concerned about another person than you are for your self." The best example is the feeling you have for one of your children. Nonetheless, many good marriages are not based on love but bonds of common, family or life needs....

Don't marry again until you have been in and out of love a few times. You may not know what "love" really means. According to the famous psychologist Harry Stack Sullivan, "A condition of love exists when you are more concerned about another person than you are for your self." The best example is the feeling you have for one of your children. Nonetheless, many good marriages are not based on love but bonds of common, family or life needs.

Good night dan211-you're now in not Judge Judy's court but mine-you've said you're married but don't love your wife-so do I take it from the start this was not really a marriage-sorry for going straight to the jugular at 1st but you have to start somewhere-so let's see have you sat down and tried to analyze if during your marriage there have been any good moments you know sometimes it might be a case of the dog/bone-even though the bone may appear meatier on the outside it might just be so raw when you get down to it-as...

Good night dan211-you're now in not Judge Judy's court but mine-you've said you're married but don't love your wife-so do I take it from the start this was not really a marriage-sorry for going straight to the jugular at 1st but you have to start somewhere-so let's see have you sat down and tried to analyze if during your marriage there have been any good moments you know sometimes it might be a case of the dog/bone-even though the bone may appear meatier on the outside it might just be so raw when you get down to it-as for the rest of your question we all have a right to love it is what all people yearn as human beings for-but may I suggest you take a second look at your marriage and put God in the mix-you might just find that this woman you don't love anymore might be a butterfly in the making-take a second chance at romance it never kills sometimes-it's people who let relationships decay and it becomes a norm and we seek adventure if this is your story share it with her maybe compromise is all it takes-hey we're women not all of us can be spiritual analysts ok so let her know what's going on and you just might be surprised at the swan you have in your bed-take care God Bless nicole bye for now.

Why don't you love your wife? This is the question that will tell you if you are ready to divorce and love someone else.

You do have the right to love someone else if you clear your relationship with your wife first and move on.

It depends on your beliefs and-or religion. You need to communicate how you feel to your wife. It is not fair to both of you. Your children is something else you may have to consider if you have any. I´ve loved many times, yet only been in love once. Good luck to you....

IMAGINE a house that has fallen into a state of disrepair. The paint is peeling, the roof is damaged, and even the lawn lies untended. Obviously, this building has weathered some severe storms over the years, and it has suffered from neglect. Should it be demolished? Not necessarily. If the foundation is strong and the structure is stable, the house can likely be restored.
Does the condition of that house remind you of your marriage? Over the yea...

IMAGINE a house that has fallen into a state of disrepair. The paint is peeling, the roof is damaged, and even the lawn lies untended. Obviously, this building has weathered some severe storms over the years, and it has suffered from neglect. Should it be demolished? Not necessarily. If the foundation is strong and the structure is stable, the house can likely be restored.
Does the condition of that house remind you of your marriage? Over the years, severe storms, so to speak, may have taken a toll on your marital relationship. A degree of neglect may be involved on the part of one or both of you. You may feel you have nothing to work with.
Even if your marriage has reached this point, do not hastily conclude that it should be terminated. Likely, your marriage can be restored. Much depends on the level of commitment that exists between you and your mate. Commitment can help to give a marriage stability in times of trial. But what is commitment? And how can the Bible help you to strengthen it?
Commitment Involves Obligation
According to one dictionary, commitment refers to “the state of being obligated or emotionally impelled.” At times, the word is applied to something impersonal, such as a business agreement. For example, a builder might feel obliged to fulfill the demands of a contract he has signed to construct a house. He may not personally know the one who commissioned the work. Still, he feels compelled to live up to his word.
Although marriage is not a cold business deal, the commitment involved includes obligation. You and your mate likely have solemnly vowed before God and man to stay together, come what may. Jesus stated: “He who created [man and woman] from the beginning made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife.’” Jesus added: “What God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matthew 19:4-6) When problems arise, then, you and your mate should be firmly resolved to honor the commitment you made. Says one wife: “It wasn’t until we stopped considering divorce as an option that things began to improve.”
Teamwork Strengthens Commitment to Marriage
Commitment to marriage does not mean that marriage mates will never disagree with each other. When a conflict occurs, there should be an earnest desire to resolve the matter not only because of an obligatory vow but because of an emotional bond. Regarding husband and wife, Jesus said: “They are no longer two, but one flesh.”
What does it mean to be “one flesh” with your mate? The apostle Paul wrote that “husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies.” (Ephesians 5:28, 29) In part, then, being “one flesh” means that you feel as concerned with the welfare of your mate as you are with your own. Married people need to shift their thinking from “mine” to “ours,” from “me” to “we.” One counselor wrote: “Both partners must stop being single at heart, and come to be married at heart.”
Are you and your spouse “married at heart”? It is possible to be together for many years and yet not be “one flesh” in that sense. Yes, that can happen, but the book Giving Time a Chance says: “Marriage means sharing a life, and the more two people share, the more there is to grow on.”
Some unhappy couples stay together for the sake of their children or for financial security. Others endure because they have strong moral objections to divorce or because they fear what others will think if they break up. While it is commendable that these marriages endure, remember that your goal should be to have a loving relationship, not simply a lasting one.
Instead of dwelling on the question, ‘What am I getting out of this relationship?’ ask yourself, ‘What am I personally doing to strengthen my marriage?’ The Bible says that Christians should be “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just [their] own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others.” (Philippians 2:4) While pondering this Bible principle, analyze your actions during the past week. How often did you perform an act of kindness solely for the benefit of your spouse? When your mate wanted to talk, did you listen—even if you did not feel particularly inclined to do so? How many activities did you engage in that interested your mate more than you?
In weighing such questions, do not worry that your good deeds will go unnoticed or unrewarded. “In most relationships,” says one reference work, “positive behavior is reciprocated, so do your best to encourage your partner to behave positively by behaving more positively yourself.” Self-sacrificing acts strengthen your marriage because they show that you value it and want to preserve it.
If you and your mate are loyal to each other, you enjoy a sense of permanence about your union. When you think about the months, years, and decades ahead, you see yourselves together in the picture. The thought of not being married to each other is utterly foreign, and this outlook brings security to your relationship. One wife says: “Even when I’m maddest at [my husband] and I’m most upset about what is happening to us, I’m not worrying about our marriage coming to an end. I’m worried about how we are ever going to get back to where we were. I don’t have a doubt in the world that we’re going to get back—I just can’t see how right then.”
A long-term view is an essential part of commitment to one’s mate, yet it is sadly lacking in many marriages. During heated exchanges, one spouse may blurt out, “I’m leaving you!” or, “I’m going to find someone who really appreciates me!” Granted, most often such words are not meant literally. Still, the Bible notes that the tongue can be “full of death-dealing poison.” (James 3:8) Threats and ultimatums send out the message: ‘I do not view our marriage as permanent. I can leave it at any time.’ Implying such a thing can be destructive to a marriage.
When you have a long-term view, you expect to be with your mate through thick and thin. This has an added benefit. It will make it far easier for you and your mate to accept weaknesses and mistakes and to continue putting up with each other and forgiving each other freely. (Colossians 3:13) “In a good marriage,” says one handbook, “there’s room for both of you to fail, and for the marriage to hold together in spite of it.”
On your wedding day, you made a commitment, not to the institution of marriage, but to a living person—your mate. This fact should have a profound effect on the way you now think and act as a married person.
In extreme cases, there may be valid reason for a married couple to separate. (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11;

First you should talk to your wife. It's not going to be easy epecially if ther are children involved and that should be in a friendly way. If you don't love your wife is no fear to hang in there. But yes, you will be able to love again. When a couple have problem but there still love each other there is always a way, but it does't work for only one.
I had an experience like that, I did't love him although he loves me very much. But I didn't think it wasn't a good idea to fool somebody knowing tha...

First you should talk to your wife. It's not going to be easy epecially if ther are children involved and that should be in a friendly way. If you don't love your wife is no fear to hang in there. But yes, you will be able to love again. When a couple have problem but there still love each other there is always a way, but it does't work for only one.
I had an experience like that, I did't love him although he loves me very much. But I didn't think it wasn't a good idea to fool somebody knowing that soon or later you will have to leave making harder for both of us. I told him and he didn't want to let me go. I have to leave him for his own good. I have to admit that I didn't do it the right way. I took off like a chicken and flu to another state, then I came back. I'm happy that he is happily married. I hope this help you. I hope everything goes right for both of you. God bless you.
gigiaIf you don't love her you should let her go and don't wait to long. She can probably meet someelse so do you. ga

Yes, you always have a right to love anyone, know matter what your relationship status is. Before pursuing said relationship, begin the divorce. As to love, before you can truly say "I love you," you must first learn how to say "I." Make sure you know yourself before you pursue someone.

"Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible...

Yes, you always have a right to love anyone, know matter what your relationship status is. Before pursuing said relationship, begin the divorce. As to love, before you can truly say "I love you," you must first learn how to say "I." Make sure you know yourself before you pursue someone.

"Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man (or woman) of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man (or woman) is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values."

“Of Living Death,” The Objectivist, Oct. 1968, 6.

Do you believe that there is nothing else to do to save your marriage? That there is not a spec of hope in perhaps rekindling your relationship? Is your wifeyour friend or your housemate? Does she listen when you speak? do you have children? How does she feel about you? I ask these questions so that if you feel she is an easy person to speak to be open and tell her exactly how you feel. Like a bandaid just one swift motion. If its a burden on you what have you got to lose really? If you dont love her at least you are do...

Do you believe that there is nothing else to do to save your marriage? That there is not a spec of hope in perhaps rekindling your relationship? Is your wifeyour friend or your housemate? Does she listen when you speak? do you have children? How does she feel about you? I ask these questions so that if you feel she is an easy person to speak to be open and tell her exactly how you feel. Like a bandaid just one swift motion. If its a burden on you what have you got to lose really? If you dont love her at least you are doing the right thing by being open and allowing her to move on as well. Good luck

Firstly, why did you get married to her in the first place? Think back to what made you fall inlove with her.
If you really do not have any feelings for her anymore, like a husband and wife should love each other, make sure you are not leaving for the wrong reasons (ie someone else in the picture) - as this could backfire on you and then after everything you realise you actually do love your wife, you were just going through a rough time or something (or someone) was clouding you...

Firstly, why did you get married to her in the first place? Think back to what made you fall inlove with her.
If you really do not have any feelings for her anymore, like a husband and wife should love each other, make sure you are not leaving for the wrong reasons (ie someone else in the picture) - as this could backfire on you and then after everything you realise you actually do love your wife, you were just going through a rough time or something (or someone) was clouding your judgement....