It was hard for me to break up with a girl I was living with. We were both miserable and she was a control freak (I now know the signs, thank god). I did not want to move back in with my parents so we just stayed together, miserably.

Later desperately trying to get her to move out so I can keep the department I became a "rebel". I would go drinking with my friends till 3...

It was hard for me to break up with a girl I was living with. We were both miserable and she was a control freak (I now know the signs, thank god). I did not want to move back in with my parents so we just stayed together, miserably.

Later desperately trying to get her to move out so I can keep the department I became a "rebel". I would go drinking with my friends till 3 in the morning and come home and play some heavy metal really loud while she was sleeping and had to work the next morning.

My plan backfired, a few weeks of early morning metal, and she kicks my ass out.

Knock knock, Hi mom, dad.....
may I sleep on the couch.
I was still happier after that than I was in the relationship.

Ideally, we should strive to end friendships without being unfriendly in the process. Many times our paths will cross again with the individuals involved and it is better to be on pleasant terms instead of an enemy. Romans 12:18 says, "If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men." This is true, even when we end friendships. May you find courage to end friendships when you must and tact to do it as peacefully as possible.
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Ideally, we should strive to end friendships without being unfriendly in the process. Many times our paths will cross again with the individuals involved and it is better to be on pleasant terms instead of an enemy. Romans 12:18 says, "If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men." This is true, even when we end friendships. May you find courage to end friendships when you must and tact to do it as peacefully as possible.
A really good friend is one who will tell us when we misbehave—and everyone does on occasion. As 1 John 1:8 explains, "If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves." So don't end a friendship just because a friend tells you that you've done something wrong. You may lose one of the best friends you could have.

On other occasions, we may find ourselves in the opposite position—that of telling a friend that he or she made a mistake. If our friend acknowledges the problem and tries to change, we should be there for him or her to encourage the friend to live in a godly manner. This isn't a time to end a friendship either.

You don't have to officially "end" the friendship unless you don't intend to be friends with the person again. this is not a business or employee/employer relationship. just stop talking to her. Sometimes a friend has different values than you do. It is important to end the friendship before they change you.
If it comes to a showdown, be clear, be honest and be firm.
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My most interesting way of ending a romantic relationship.
" I would like you to meet my wife."

Great question by the way since this is part of life we want to do the best way in such unplesant situation.The worst i ever did was to bring up a list of faults and criticism .(..because you do not do this for me...it is not going to work.)When i ended my marriage was because I could not trust my partner.
Today i learn that you must pick up the right time and do it in a private situation and not over the phone , letter , text message or internet.Discus...

Great question by the way since this is part of life we want to do the best way in such unplesant situation.The worst i ever did was to bring up a list of faults and criticism .(..because you do not do this for me...it is not going to work.)When i ended my marriage was because I could not trust my partner.
Today i learn that you must pick up the right time and do it in a private situation and not over the phone , letter , text message or internet.Discuss this serious matter face to face and speak the truth.Use phrases that focus on how you feel..I NEED A PERSON WHO....I FEEL THIS RELATIONSHIP SHOULD END BECAUSE...Be firm and do not let the other person alter your decision by manipulation.
Just today someone I know ended their relationship to my suprise because the excuse was ...the age difference ( a young woman with outgoing personality with an older person who wants a quiet life.
I am curious to see what will be the other reasons others will say.

Well there was a girl back in the 13th century who I went out with for a while but it was never going to work; just a lack of clickiness really. I behaved abominably and knowingly engineered the situation so that in the end she dumped me.
Twenty years later I had a friends reunited message asking how I was and what was I up to. An exchange of e-mails ensued until finally one night in a fit of remorse brought on a very nice bottle of Lirac I confessed my crime...

Well there was a girl back in the 13th century who I went out with for a while but it was never going to work; just a lack of clickiness really. I behaved abominably and knowingly engineered the situation so that in the end she dumped me.
Twenty years later I had a friends reunited message asking how I was and what was I up to. An exchange of e-mails ensued until finally one night in a fit of remorse brought on a very nice bottle of Lirac I confessed my crime and apologised and admitted to having been a bastard.
Two days passed before her reply which read - "Oh Danny you silly boy, you're more of a bastard than you think. It was my sister you went out with".

Actually any relationship I am in is tragic when it ends because I am a self-compulsive-relationship ruiner. I get scared and make up some excuse to break up with the guy. I constantly break it off because I'm just that insecure and worried that I am going to get hurt.

A few times, yes. I think they were just excuses though to not hurt the other person.

I've used lines like "its not you, its me, im not ready for a real relationship like we had" etc. I've tried to be nice...Once though, an ex of mine wouldn't leave me alone, after I had told him that I didn't love him anymore and couldn't stand the things that he had put me through and ju...

A few times, yes. I think they were just excuses though to not hurt the other person.

I've used lines like "its not you, its me, im not ready for a real relationship like we had" etc. I've tried to be nice...Once though, an ex of mine wouldn't leave me alone, after I had told him that I didn't love him anymore and couldn't stand the things that he had put me through and just had to put an end to it, he blamed another guy and said that I was a liar and that if anything I had put him through all of this crap (which was not true, I actually became clinically depressed because of it and he just kept on ignoring that fact, treating me worse and worse), and said that I just wanted to be with someone else, which was SO not true. In fact, I didn't even want anyone after him he was that horrible to me.

So to get him to leave me alone and shut him up I finally said "YES! I'm leaving you becuase I am madly in love with so-and-so and I don't want to be with you, I'd rather be with him becuse he is so much better!"

And he got realy mad and said I KNEW IT! And I was like laughing because yea, he's an idiot.

My experience is almost like yours. I had a boyfriend for a year but I made the mistake, instead of telling him give me some space I feel really confused and I dont' want this relationship right now, I told him the samething you did. He was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life and I always regreat it. But don't feel bad because it does't make any different who break the relationship, it probably was mean to be. Maybe you were like me, he was talking about children and I was very immature and afraid, and th...

My experience is almost like yours. I had a boyfriend for a year but I made the mistake, instead of telling him give me some space I feel really confused and I dont' want this relationship right now, I told him the samething you did. He was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life and I always regreat it. But don't feel bad because it does't make any different who break the relationship, it probably was mean to be. Maybe you were like me, he was talking about children and I was very immature and afraid, and that happen sometime when somebody try to get so close and you are not ready. chances are that you want to back off or get away or you don't want to get that person hurt so you put the blame on yourself, but we all have done things like that, it was an experience. Since I don't know if you want the relationship back or you feel regreat it and you have a chance to talk to that person it would be nice. You can also write a letter explaining the circumtances. I wish I had that chance but believe me I know I did't mean to hurt him and he is happily married.If you write a letter, you don't have to mail it. You can read and burn the letter, that will help you. God bless you. gigia

One night, I just told *sshole that I wanted to break up. At this point I knew he will probably rough me up a bit. He hid the car keys so I can't leave, then rip the phone out of the wall so I can't call the police or anyone to come get me. He held hold me down on the bed by my throat for several hours, threatening to kill me if I'll left. I hung in there. He has to sleep sometime.

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One night, I just told *sshole that I wanted to break up. At this point I knew he will probably rough me up a bit. He hid the car keys so I can't leave, then rip the phone out of the wall so I can't call the police or anyone to come get me. He held hold me down on the bed by my throat for several hours, threatening to kill me if I'll left. I hung in there. He has to sleep sometime.

Wait until *sshole falls asleep then pack up just what I can fit in a garbage bag, leaving all of my earthly possessions including the house, the car, the leased furniture, and everything else, which, by the way it was all in my name. I really didn't need any of that stuff, so I just want OUT. Leaving everything I own will serve as my attempt to make the break up as short and sweet as possible. (As a side note, it won't keep the break-up scenario from getting very ugly and lasting more than a year, but at least this way your credit will be ruined for the rest of your life!)

I threatened to have mine deported back to Mexico. Something I very much regret in my youth. Very ashamed.

Good night Nicole Angioletti well we're off to a good start I feel as though I'm talking to myself seeing we share the same name-smile-To a certain degree I think we all have gone through ending a relationship and then wishing we could change the course of what was said or done at that moment. As I look back you're really asking me to dig deep so here goes-get a cup of coffee you might need it to stay awake -don't worry for a handkerchief not necessary- you see about 22 years ago oops I'm getting old I met someone unpla...

Good night Nicole Angioletti well we're off to a good start I feel as though I'm talking to myself seeing we share the same name-smile-To a certain degree I think we all have gone through ending a relationship and then wishing we could change the course of what was said or done at that moment. As I look back you're really asking me to dig deep so here goes-get a cup of coffee you might need it to stay awake -don't worry for a handkerchief not necessary- you see about 22 years ago oops I'm getting old I met someone unplanned in my life through a friend-this person would see me when I went to his Company unknown to me-he eventually asked a friend of mine to arrange a meeting with me-introductions completed we eventually went for lunch 1 day- through him I was able to meet his siblings over the phone-I felt connected to him and it felt right then my mom fell ill and as with everything changes came if even he wanted to go out I would have to decline because my mom leaned on me then as she does presently now-she's still around turns 86 God's willing this year-so in a funny way I never had to break what could have been as it was broken on it's own-I'd be lying if I said I wonder what could have been if things were different but I've had to look ahead but odd as life would have it though he's still unmarried and so am I-he understood why I had to care for her so you can say the relationship ended without even being able to fully begin-well that's it for me-take care God Bless nicole cozier

If there is ever any right way to break up I have never heard it or read of it. There is nothing you can say to a person who wants to be with you when you want to end it that will make her, or him, accept it. It will always be a disaster or "lousy job." But, the only way to go about it is face to face preferably in a restaurant or public library where the other party will be inclined to remain calm and not start throwing stuff or screaming. If in a restaurant don't give the bad news until after the meal, the c...

If there is ever any right way to break up I have never heard it or read of it. There is nothing you can say to a person who wants to be with you when you want to end it that will make her, or him, accept it. It will always be a disaster or "lousy job." But, the only way to go about it is face to face preferably in a restaurant or public library where the other party will be inclined to remain calm and not start throwing stuff or screaming. If in a restaurant don't give the bad news until after the meal, the check is paid and all the plates and utensils have been removed. If there is a glass of anything on the table expect to be wearing it on the way out.