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Just for Fun Survey: Control Mechanisms:
Asked by: kc5255
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DIRECTIONS: Here are some ways in which you control people to do for you the things you could do for yourself. Put an ``X'' next to those behaviors usually true for you. Base on your number of responses, an INTERPRETATION will be sent to you by me of your control mechansims.
___ 1. You act helpless, incompetent, or lost.
___ 2. You make the other person feel very important and essential in your life.
___ 3. You tell them reasons which are a lie why you couldn't get things done.
___ 4. You feel self-pity and act out the belief that you have done everything for everyone in your life so it's your turn now to be taken care of.
___ 5. You act tense, anxious, and stressed out and incapable of caring for yourself.
___ 6. You resort to threats of suicide or self-destruction to get others to care for you.
___ 7. You give others a set of conditions they must do for you before you will give them acceptance, care, or approval.
___ 8. You offer them rewards if they will do what you want done.
___ 9. You threaten others with withdrawal of attention, support, affection, or approval if they don't do what you want done.
___ 10. You withhold your involvement, attention, and concern if they don't do what you want done.
___ 11 You play on their sympathy and concern by being a pathetic martyr, overworked and unappreciated victim.
___ 12. You play on your physical or emotional illness, be it real or perceived, to get them to do for you.
___ 13. You play on their need to be needed to get them to take care of you.
___ 14. You play up to their guilt and overresponsible nature to get what you want.
___ 15. You act dependent in order to give the other a sense of importance and value in helping you.
___ 16. You fall apart when faced with having to do something which you would rather not do.
___ 1. You act helpless, incompetent, or lost.
___ 2. You make the other person feel very important and essential in your life.
___ 3. You tell them reasons which are a lie why you couldn't get things done.
___ 4. You feel self-pity and act out the belief that you have done everything for everyone in your life so it's your turn now to be taken care of.
___ 5. You act tense, anxious, and stressed out and incapable of caring for yourself.
___ 6. You resort to threats of suicide or self-destruction to get others to care for you.
___ 7. You give others a set of conditions they must do for you before you will give them acceptance, care, or approval.
___ 8. You offer them rewards if they will do what you want done.
___ 9. You threaten others with withdrawal of attention, support, affection, or approval if they don't do what you want done.
___ 10. You withhold your involvement, attention, and concern if they don't do what you want done.
___ 11 You play on their sympathy and concern by being a pathetic martyr, overworked and unappreciated victim.
___ 12. You play on your physical or emotional illness, be it real or perceived, to get them to do for you.
___ 13. You play on their need to be needed to get them to take care of you.
___ 14. You play up to their guilt and overresponsible nature to get what you want.
___ 15. You act dependent in order to give the other a sense of importance and value in helping you.
___ 16. You fall apart when faced with having to do something which you would rather not do.
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(08/10/08):
___ 17. You play up to a person who has a need to fix things that things have gotten so "out of control'' for you. ___ 18. You promise to change or reform the behaviors the other wants you to change in order to get what you want out of the other, never meaning to change or reform.
___ 19. When you sense another person is pulling away from you, you feign a problem or need which you believe will get that person involved with you again.
___ 20. You act as if you have forgotten to do something which you know the other will do for you.
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Those things are just not my way. Except for
2. You make the other person feel very important and essential in your life.
And that is probably a bit of an exaggeration of the good a compliment can do.
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8. You offer them rewards if they will do what you want done.
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2. You make the other person feel very important and essential in your life.
And that is probably a bit of an exaggeration of the good a compliment can do.
And
8. You offer them rewards if they will do what you want done.
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Answer Date: 11:44am 08/10/08
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Richard...your name has been drawn from my special hat as "best answer" you overuse control mechanisms to get people to do what you could do for yourself |
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Believe it or not, I've never done any of these! I don't want to control other people! If I could, I wouldn't have any respect for them or myself! So, if I want someone to do something for me, I just ask! The choice is up to them!
Answer Date: 09:47am 08/10/08
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___ 15. You act dependent in order to give the other a sense of importance and value in helping you.
___ 17. You play up to a person who has a need to fix things that things have gotten so "out of control'' for you.
___ 19. When you sense another person is pulling away from you, you feign ...
___ 17. You play up to a person who has a need to fix things that things have gotten so "out of control'' for you.
___ 19. When you sense another person is pulling away from you, you feign ...
Answer Date: 08:34pm 08/11/08
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I think people who want control most are those who actually have the least control in their own lives. Even if people don't say so they can see through all of these plies
Answer Date: 08:13am 08/26/08
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