_X_ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response to your positive or negative feelings.

_X__ 6. You can show enjoyment, excitement, and enthusiastic feelings when the event appropriately calls for such a response.

__X_ 7. You are able to openly cry and grieve a loss event in your life.
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_X_ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response to your positive or negative feelings.

_X__ 6. You can show enjoyment, excitement, and enthusiastic feelings when the event appropriately calls for such a response.

__X_ 7. You are able to openly cry and grieve a loss event in your life.


_X__ 9. You are able to express your violent rage and anger outbursts privately so that you can return to people in a more composed way to let them know in a healthy assertive way how angry you are.

__X_ 11. You are able to not allow self-pity to be a driving force in your attitude about freely giving of your time and energy to accomplish what you want out of life.
Additional Details added (08/10/08):
__X_ 12. If people in your life are acting out of control, you are able to freely express your feelings of disappointment or disagreement and yet not get hooked into being out of control with them.

__X_ 13. If you feel intimidated by another person, you freely admit your feelings to yourself and choose not to let this person control the way you feel, think, or act.

__X_ 14. You are able to admit feeling powerless over those things out of your control to change, fix, or rescue.

_X__ 15. You are able to feel at ease and have serenity in letting go of the uncontrollables and unchangeables in your life.

_XXXX__ 16. You do not feel you are alone in having to deal with the pressures of life because you feel you have a Higher Power to whom you can hand the uncontrollables and unchangeables over which you feel powerless.

___ 19. You do not let fantasies, dreams, traditions, or promises of the way things are supposed to be interfere with your rationally experiencing life the way it really is. **(DOES HOPE COUNT?)**

_X__ 20. You have no need to be invisible or on guard so as not to be vulnerable to feeling hurt or pain, because you feel it is better for you to be vulnerable in life to experience authentic human growth.

I try to stay as positive and be as strong as i can with all these crazy/bad things that happen in my life and i always have faith.

X's on everything but No. 9 - I don't have a bad temper, and I don't have a violent streak, thank God! Finally I get to put my X's on your questions!

I control my emotions appropriately, Question number 16 is particularly important to me. In fact that is the key to the subject.
I hope you will make known who designed the survey and their qualifications.

I put an X by fourteen of these questions. One of these was twenty, so I'm not going to tell you which. :)

1. You allow yourself to be free, open, and expressive to the feelings you are experiencing at the moment.

___ 2. You usually do not try to hide your feelings, be they positive or negative.

___ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response...

1. You allow yourself to be free, open, and expressive to the feelings you are experiencing at the moment.

___ 2. You usually do not try to hide your feelings, be they positive or negative.

___ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response to your positive or negative feelings.

___ 4. You are able to freely express your anger, in an assertive confrontation mode with no raging, yelling, screaming, ranting, or raving at other people.

___ 5. You do not avoid letting others know if you are angry with them and yet you don't blow your cool in the telling.

___ 6. You can show enjoyment, excitement, and enthusiastic feelings when the event appropriately calls for such a response.

___ 7. You are able to openly cry and grieve a loss event in your life.

___ 9. You are able to express your violent rage and anger outbursts privately so that you can return to people in a more composed way to let them know in a healthy assertive way how angry you are.

___ 10. You are able to analyze your emotions at the time and to see if they are congruent or in synch with your thinking and actions. If they are not, you are able to figure out why and what to do about it.

___ 13. If you feel intimidated by another person, you freely admit your feelings to yourself and choose not to let this person control the way you feel, think, or act.

___ 15. You are able to feel at ease and have serenity in letting go of the uncontrollables and unchangeables in your life.

___ 16. You do not feel you are alone in having to deal with the pressures of life because you feel you have a Higher Power to whom you can hand the uncontrollables and unchangeables over which you feel powerless.

___ 17. You feel detached from the behaviors, actions, and negative aspects of the people in life for whom you care a great deal and yet are not able to fix, rescue, or change.

___ 18. You are able to feel good about yourself with no guilt or remorse when you feel detached from the people with whom you have had toxic relationships in the past.

___ 19. You do not let fantasies, dreams, traditions, or promises of the way things are supposed to be interfere with your rationally experiencing life the way it really is.

___ 20. You have no need to be invisible or on guard so as not to be vulnerable to feeling hurt or pain, because you feel it is better for you to be vulnerable in life to experience authentic human growth.

This series of questions is a bit too personal for me. Didn't want you to think that I blew off your question, though. I know you always answer my long ones. hugs

___1. You allow yourself to be free, open, and expressive to the feelings you are experiencing at the moment.

___ 2. You usually do not try to hide your feelings, be they positive or negative.

___ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response...

___1. You allow yourself to be free, open, and expressive to the feelings you are experiencing at the moment.

___ 2. You usually do not try to hide your feelings, be they positive or negative.

___ 3. You are usually able to accept the consequences of others' response to your positive or negative feelings.

___ 4. You are able to freely express your anger, in an assertive confrontation mode with no raging, yelling, screaming, ranting, or raving at other people.

___ 5. You do not avoid letting others know if you are angry with them and yet you don't blow your cool in the telling.

x 6. You can show enjoyment, excitement, and enthusiastic feelings when the event appropriately calls for such a response.

x 7. You are able to openly cry and grieve a loss event in your life.

___ 8. You are able to do anger workouts over old, unresolved anger in your life so as to free yourself of the emotional burden and drain these repressed and unresolved feelings have on your emotional energy.

___ 9. You are able to express your violent rage and anger outbursts privately so that you can return to people in a more composed way to let them know in a healthy assertive way how angry you are.

___ 10. You are able to analyze your emotions at the time and to see if they are congruent or in synch with your thinking and actions. If they are not, you are able to figure out why and what to do about it.

___ 11. You are able to not allow self-pity to be a driving force in your attitude about freely giving of your time and energy to accomplish what you want out of life.


___ 12. If people in your life are acting out of control, you are able to freely express your feelings of disappointment or disagreement and yet not get hooked into being out of control with them.


This probably indicates that I'm a horrible horrible person.
___ 13. If you feel intimidated by another person, you freely admit your feelings to yourself and choose not to let this person control the way you feel, think, or act.

___ 14. You are able to admit feeling powerless over those things out of your control to change, fix, or rescue.

___ 15. You are able to feel at ease and have serenity in letting go of the uncontrollables and unchangeables in your life.

___ 16. You do not feel you are alone in having to deal with the pressures of life because you feel you have a Higher Power to whom you can hand the uncontrollables and unchangeables over which you feel powerless.

___ 17. You feel detached from the behaviors, actions, and negative aspects of the people in life for whom you care a great deal and yet are not able to fix, rescue, or change.

___ 18. You are able to feel good about yourself with no guilt or remorse when you feel detached from the people with whom you have had toxic relationships in the past.

___ 19. You do not let fantasies, dreams, traditions, or promises of the way things are supposed to be interfere with your rationally experiencing life the way it really is.

___ 20. You have no need to be invisible or on guard so as not to be vulnerable to feeling hurt or pain, because you feel it is better for you to be vulnerable in life to experience authentic human growth.

Everything checked except 5 and 7....