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My boyfriend returned from Iraq in April. He had been there 15 months. I relocated to a new city so I could be near him. We share an apartment. I am finding that he is not interested in having sex with me. He says he loves me and he thinks we have a good relationship. He says he only wants to be with me. However, I cannot see how a relationship can develop if we never have sex. It is like he is just a roommate! We are both 23 and I am a college graduate. I do not want a roommate, but rather a partner to spend my life with, I just don't know if this type of behavior is normal with returning verterns. I need help!
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He may be suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, and could be fearful that he cannot perform sexually. Be patient! Be supportive! Don't pressure him, or talk about your lack of a sex life! If you really love him, give him time to deal with his own issues. He may need counselling. Your relationship can develop in many ways without sex, until he is ready to resume a sexual relationship with you. Intimacy and affection can still be a big part of your relationship. Someday, when you least expect it, he will initiate...
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i dont think its normal,he should be really wanting sex after such a long time!! but anyway,r u sure he isnt sleeping wid anyone else? or does he have a 'guy problem'?? ask him frankly what you think,maybe he is too stressed out or something,but most importantly if u are not happy dont stay in this kind of a relationship,its gonna hurt you andmake you feel helpless and hopeless. tell him that its driving you crazy as to why he wudnt want to have sex wid you,ask him what the problem is,if he doesnt say anything then walk...
Answer Date: 11:29pm 07/22/08
 
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I agree with mboutillier. God only knows what that poor man has been through. You know, men have always gotten a bad wrap where sex is concerned, being considered shallow, and only wanting it for the mechanics of it all. I believe that to be untrue. I think men can feel sex on a deep, emotional level. He may have alot of bottled up emotions that he's not ready to release just yet, and the intimacy of sex may make him feel vulnerable, perhaps leaving him feeling out of control, therefore avoiding it altogether. A sexual ...
Answer Date: 07:55pm 07/23/08
 
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