If you look at someone and are attracted to them instantly then you may pursue the relationship further and a lot of the time you will find that that person isn't as attractive as you thought. But when you get to know someone even if you didn't find them attractive to begin with you may start to find yourself becoming more attracted to that person every day. So yes attraction can be very confusing! I would always recommend going for the person that you found attractive after you got to know them, because that will be th...

If you look at someone and are attracted to them instantly then you may pursue the relationship further and a lot of the time you will find that that person isn't as attractive as you thought. But when you get to know someone even if you didn't find them attractive to begin with you may start to find yourself becoming more attracted to that person every day. So yes attraction can be very confusing! I would always recommend going for the person that you found attractive after you got to know them, because that will be the person you will probably fall in love with not lust with.

If you dig a little deeper attraction has to do with that you have an inner feeling that, that person can fufill your dreams of what you want in a partner. It's not always necessarily that they have but you feel that they can thus the attraction. This could be many things for instance you find yourself very comfortable around this person, more comfortable around this person than your used to, thus an attraction grows. You tell yourself, "I could live with this." The same is true for many things that people see...

If you dig a little deeper attraction has to do with that you have an inner feeling that, that person can fufill your dreams of what you want in a partner. It's not always necessarily that they have but you feel that they can thus the attraction. This could be many things for instance you find yourself very comfortable around this person, more comfortable around this person than your used to, thus an attraction grows. You tell yourself, "I could live with this." The same is true for many things that people see in other people. It's actually a selfish thing at times. I am not talking about genuine love here, just attraction.

"Opposites attract" (physics of a magnet)

So I guess you share common thoughts and feelings for each other n you end up being with each other, having a companion eases your daily routine too....

"Opposites attract" (physics of a magnet)

So I guess you share common thoughts and feelings for each other n you end up being with each other, having a companion eases your daily routine too.And that isn't just limited to magnets :P

If wavelength of thoughts, ideas are same between me and someother person attraction is created towards each other. Sometimes body parts i.e eyes and hair makes me to attract....

If wavelength of thoughts, ideas are same between me and someother person attraction is created towards each other. Sometimes body parts i.e eyes and hair makes me to attract.SO attraction is a attractive subject

yes i think so because i be attracted to men for differenent reasons like if he have a nice shave, the way he carries his self,' his size, his personality

sexual attraction starts off with body shape and smell, then maybe voice, but theres no guarantee that will develop into a long term bond, which depends more on a meeting of minds.

Love one for who they are. Attraction isn't confusing, it's natural.

I'm always surprised when I see couples together! Often they seem mismatched when first observed! I wonder what one saw in the other! But attraction is such an individual thing - like guys who prefer full-figured women, or women who like short men! But who are we to judge? If they're happy, and there's chemistry between them, that's all that matters! First impressions are not always the way things really are! 'Love at first sight' always throws me because it has to be based solely on physical attraction! But the odd tim...

I'm always surprised when I see couples together! Often they seem mismatched when first observed! I wonder what one saw in the other! But attraction is such an individual thing - like guys who prefer full-figured women, or women who like short men! But who are we to judge? If they're happy, and there's chemistry between them, that's all that matters! First impressions are not always the way things really are! 'Love at first sight' always throws me because it has to be based solely on physical attraction! But the odd time it works out! Very confusing subject, but isn't it fun?

Some of the time it is a matter of comfort. Once the feeling of newness has gone from the relationship it can turn directly into a comfortable relationship. what I mean is, have you ever felt "right at home" with someone? Have you ever looked at a person and said "I could live with this person"?
As far as attraction goes, the person you are attracted to has to give you something to be attracted to and change it up from time to time. That pers...

Some of the time it is a matter of comfort. Once the feeling of newness has gone from the relationship it can turn directly into a comfortable relationship. what I mean is, have you ever felt "right at home" with someone? Have you ever looked at a person and said "I could live with this person"?
As far as attraction goes, the person you are attracted to has to give you something to be attracted to and change it up from time to time. That person has to know what it is that intrigues you and use that to keep your attention. That is where you hear things like "you have to work at a relationship". Well there's the work part (amongst other things of course). You have to do the same thing, cause the other person feels the same way you do probably.
Material things are short term fixes and usually don't amount to enough to keep someone interested.

I don't find attraction to confusing.Two people that meet for the first time look at each other and have the initial "ok he/she is good looking",but after that they have to be on the same wave link for any kind of long lasting relationship to work.Like some of the same things ect...,also it depends on the typ of person you are,some poeple are more into the dangerous type and some like the secure predictable ones.It all depends on the chemistry and that's all there is to it,if that isn't there then it will neve...

I don't find attraction to confusing.Two people that meet for the first time look at each other and have the initial "ok he/she is good looking",but after that they have to be on the same wave link for any kind of long lasting relationship to work.Like some of the same things ect...,also it depends on the typ of person you are,some poeple are more into the dangerous type and some like the secure predictable ones.It all depends on the chemistry and that's all there is to it,if that isn't there then it will never work.

Attraction is somethin really confusing which can be summerised as below:

The Obsessive Love Wheel Confusing Love with Obsession

The Case of Obsessive Relational Progression

So how do you know if you have developed an unhealthy attachment to anothe...

Attraction is somethin really confusing which can be summerised as below:

The Obsessive Love Wheel Confusing Love with Obsession

The Case of Obsessive Relational Progression

So how do you know if you have developed an unhealthy attachment to another person? By examining the Obsessive Love Wheel (OLW), which is designed to illustrate an overall process called Obsessive Relational Progression (ORP) [the specific attachment style of people Who Confuse Love with Obsession] it may be possible to recognize if you have a problem. There are four phases of ORP and each one carries unique behaviors. As demonstrated through the wheel, once an unhealthy attachment to another starts, the person who Confuses Love with Obsession begins to lose emotional control.

It is called a "wheel" because it is always turning, round and round as the relationship continues. Sometimes the wheel turns quickly, other times slowly, but it is always turning and always painful. While examining the wheel, look for any patterns of behavior in your relationship(s) and ask yourself: "Do either I or the person I am involved with behave this way?"

PHASE ONE THE ATTRACTION PHASE:

The initial phase of ORP is characterized by an instantaneous and overwhelming attraction to another person. It is at this point the relationally dependent person becomes "hooked" on a romantic interest, usually resulting from the slightest bit of attention from the person they are attracted to. Phase One ORP behaviors can include:

• An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few minutes of meeting.

• An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.

• Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics while ignoring personality differences.

• Unrealistic fantasies about a relationship with a love interest, assigning "magical" qualities to an object of affection.

• The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.

PHASE TWO THE ANXIOUS PHASE:

This phase in considered a relational turning point, which usually occurs after a commitment has been made between both parties. Sometimes however, the relationally dependent person will enter into this phase without the presence of a commitment. This happens when the afflicted person creates the illusion of intimacy, regardless of the other person's true feelings. The second phase of ORP behaviors can include:

• Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.

• An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.

• The need to constantly be in contact with a love interest via phone, email or in person.

• Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and relational tension.

• The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.

PHASE THREE THE OBSESSIVE PHASE:

This particular phase represents the rapid escalation of this unhealthy attachment style. It is at this point that obsessive, controlling behaviors reach critical mass, ultimately overwhelming the RD person's life. It is also at this point that the person being controlled begins to pull back and ultimately, severs the relationship. In short, Phase Three is characterized by a total loss of control on the part of the RD person, resulting from extreme anxiety. Usually, the following characteristics are apparent during the third phase of ORP.

• The onset of "tunnel vision," meaning that the relationally dependent person cannot stop thinking about a love interest and required his or her constant attention.

• Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to love interest's place of residence or workplace.

• Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety.

• "Drive-bys" around a love interest's home or place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is at where "he or she is supposed to be."

• Physical or electronic monitoring activities, following a love interest's whereabouts throughout the course of a day to discover daily activities.

• Extreme control tactics, including questioning a love interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the goal of manipulating a love interest into providing more attention.

PHASE FOUR DESTRUCTIVE PHASE:

This is the final phase of Obsessive Relational Progression. It represents the destruction of the relationship, due to phase three behaviors, which have caused a love interest to understandably flee. For a variety of reasons, this is considered the most dangerous of the four phases, because the RD person suddenly plummets into a deep depression due to the collapse of the relationship. Here are some of the more common behaviors that are exhibited during phase four of ORP:

• Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).

• A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.

• Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.

• Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a love interest for breaking off the relationship.

• Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" by making promises to "change".

• The use of drugs, alcohol, food or sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.

SUMMARY

If your behaviors mirrored the various phases or the Obsessive Love Wheel, then it may be time to learn more. Obsessive Relational Progression is a problem that does not get better on its own and does not get better over time. Sadly for many people, the only way they can get off their frenzied wheel is by jumping onto a new one.