I'm sorry if this was rude, but I laughed when I read this.

The first thing is if you're living with each other. If you aren't than it clears up the "extra expectations" that are placed on you, for I'm not sure on what else can occur besides gaining more family relatives.

Besides that, kids are optional (of course), and you don't necessarily get...

I'm sorry if this was rude, but I laughed when I read this.

The first thing is if you're living with each other. If you aren't than it clears up the "extra expectations" that are placed on you, for I'm not sure on what else can occur besides gaining more family relatives.

Besides that, kids are optional (of course), and you don't necessarily get fat (adoption is an option) also is exercising and eating right but even then it is necessary as some people don't get fat after having babies (some). Having kids and cooking for them doesn't make you fat. Having kids can potentially make you have a slightly larger (and I do mean slightly, as you won't be obese or near obesity from having a kid) belly. Cooking for them is actually later on, in which your belly will have gone back to normal, and when you do start just make them eat healthy, its good for everyone (I wouldn't know of course >:)

I'm not sure where you're from, but many people have found that the "honor" that you refer too causes the "work late" hubby. A part time job could solve that as you'd have freedom and get to be with the kids. Alternatively, you could both get full time jobs, and have a family member take care of your kid(s).

Housework is between the couple. It doesn't say in invisible words when you get married that the wife does the housework. You and your hubby can agree him doing the housework and you cooking, or something like that (Depends on the couple of course).

Lastly, it's going to be harder to decide to marry or not with these views on marriage. Also, marriage doesn't always work because people change over time, therefore marrying early is usually a bad idea in the first place (not always but problems can/have occurred).

I wish you the best of luck though in making your decision!

im my opinion marriage does not "trap a woman." It is a new chapter in their lives. and if there is all of those problems that you mention then maybe it is a disfuncional marriage that needs to be worked out. Marriage is WANTING to share the rest of your life your spouse and start a family. It is WANTING to sacrafice things for your family and take care and provide for them. It does not mean that the women will get fat and be unhappy. Im sure all marriages have their up and down points but i think a balance ca...

im my opinion marriage does not "trap a woman." It is a new chapter in their lives. and if there is all of those problems that you mention then maybe it is a disfuncional marriage that needs to be worked out. Marriage is WANTING to share the rest of your life your spouse and start a family. It is WANTING to sacrafice things for your family and take care and provide for them. It does not mean that the women will get fat and be unhappy. Im sure all marriages have their up and down points but i think a balance can be achieved in anything.

I believe, such a description is schematysed much, as a lot depends on the personality of a woman and her own expectations =) I personally know lots of women who tried (and actually did) to blend the bringing up and working more than successfully.

I mean, life is about fun and happiness, why should you do things that you don't want to happen in your own life... Marriage is something more than j...

I believe, such a description is schematysed much, as a lot depends on the personality of a woman and her own expectations =) I personally know lots of women who tried (and actually did) to blend the bringing up and working more than successfully.

I mean, life is about fun and happiness, why should you do things that you don't want to happen in your own life... Marriage is something more than just cooking and kids anyway, and its fullfilment and success are in your own hands... So be brave enough, and dive into these mysterious waters, but only with one, you truelly love.