In the privacy of your own room, decide what you want the "rules of the house" to be. Write them down. Call your kids into whatever room you'd like and announce there is going to be a family meeting. First ask each child to tell you why they think there are so many problems. (This will help them feel valued and more apt to listen to what you have to say) Acknowledge when they are right. THEN, tell them you think the main problem is that no one in the house seems to know what's acceptable behavior and what's no...

In the privacy of your own room, decide what you want the "rules of the house" to be. Write them down. Call your kids into whatever room you'd like and announce there is going to be a family meeting. First ask each child to tell you why they think there are so many problems. (This will help them feel valued and more apt to listen to what you have to say) Acknowledge when they are right. THEN, tell them you think the main problem is that no one in the house seems to know what's acceptable behavior and what's not. Read out loud the rules for the house and to make things esay, come up with one common consequence. (Who ever breaks the rule, misses his or her favorite TV show for one day. They do it again, TWO days.) Post the rules on the refrigerator door for all to see. That way no one can later complain.."I didn't know that..."

Then stick to the plan. No matter what.