NO MATE SERIOUS IVE BEEN IN THE SAME PREDICAMENT AND I ENDED UP FALLING OUT WITH HER AND SHE WAS GOING THROUGH THE SAME PHASE SHE DOESN'T LIKE COMMITMENT YOUR HER PERFECT GUY BUT YOUR FRIENDS AND THATS WHAT SHE NEEDS IS A FRIEND! IVE JUST SEEN MINE HAVE A BABY AND SHES IN A MINT RELATIONSHIP NOW SHE'LL STOP SOONER OR LATER AND NEED YOU TO FALL BACK ON FOR ADVICE AND CARE!

I don't know what YOU should do but I know what I’d do.

Wait AND look for another girl

Here’s why:

Right now she is jumping from relationship to relationship and it's going ...

I don't know what YOU should do but I know what I’d do.

Wait AND look for another girl

Here’s why:

Right now she is jumping from relationship to relationship and it's going to stay that way till she grows up and starts looking for a real, solid relationship.
but here's the thing she might not grow up and might just keep dating around forever so that's why I’d keep my eyes open.

BUT if it starts really eating at you tell her how you feel (wait till she's single)

I hope this helps good luck

Dont waste time.Approach immediately and expose your true feelings to your lady love.She rejects or accepts..let her take the descision..You will feel better and all your stress will be released.
who knows..what happens next? Possibility thinking is needed here.
One more very important message: You have to ignore to females sometimes but not always and that hurts their ego badly and then only they show more interest than before. This is tested tricks of wellknown HITCHES .
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Dont waste time.Approach immediately and expose your true feelings to your lady love.She rejects or accepts..let her take the descision..You will feel better and all your stress will be released.
who knows..what happens next? Possibility thinking is needed here.
One more very important message: You have to ignore to females sometimes but not always and that hurts their ego badly and then only they show more interest than before. This is tested tricks of wellknown HITCHES .
Good luck!

It does indeed sound as if the girl you like is not romantically interested in you. However, you needn't be so down on yourself. You say, "I'm only good enough when I'm single." This is not a question of you being "good enough."
The apparent fact that she is not drawn to you as a boyfriend speaks to that thing called "chemistry." It's not a judgement on you. As to what you should do now? Expressing your hidden desire for her carries risks....

It does indeed sound as if the girl you like is not romantically interested in you. However, you needn't be so down on yourself. You say, "I'm only good enough when I'm single." This is not a question of you being "good enough."
The apparent fact that she is not drawn to you as a boyfriend speaks to that thing called "chemistry." It's not a judgement on you. As to what you should do now? Expressing your hidden desire for her carries risks. It would seem her behaviors are a clear indication of what she would likely say. "You are a great friend, but..." If you can handle this, than go ahead. You might be relieved that everything is out in the open and it might free you up to REALLY look elsewhere. On the other hand if you are a more vulnerable sort of person, her words might be crushing and so simply making up your mind to move forward and be available to her when you have the inclination, might be a better choice.

There is only one thing to do, and that is tell her how you feel. In the long run, making yourself vulnerable is minor compared to following your heart. You have to be true to yourself and let her know. At least then you won't have to wonder about it anymore. It sounds like maybe she is just using you for friendship when she has no one else, and wouldn't you rather know that than just wonder about it? You should have a girl who values you, no matter whether that is her or some other girl. Good luck....

There is only one thing to do, and that is tell her how you feel. In the long run, making yourself vulnerable is minor compared to following your heart. You have to be true to yourself and let her know. At least then you won't have to wonder about it anymore. It sounds like maybe she is just using you for friendship when she has no one else, and wouldn't you rather know that than just wonder about it? You should have a girl who values you, no matter whether that is her or some other girl. Good luck.

You said that you have been friends for 2 years now. You should be able to tell her your feelings towards her.

It sounds like you already know what her reaction will be.

Being that she seems to only "cling" to you during her lack of dating another only tells me that she has taken your friendship for granted....

You said that you have been friends for 2 years now. You should be able to tell her your feelings towards her.

It sounds like you already know what her reaction will be.

Being that she seems to only "cling" to you during her lack of dating another only tells me that she has taken your friendship for granted.

This isn't emotionally healthy for you as you are too focused on this girl and at the same time, your chances at a relationship with another girl might be passing you by.

Definitely tell her how you feel and then move on.

Good luck!

You said she only likes to spend time with you when she doesn't have a man.
Then you said she has a boyfriend every other week.
The next time she's single you should make the quickest move you can to try and get with her.
If you do try everything you have to to make it last as long as possible.
Just try to nabb her before another dude moves in.
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You said she only likes to spend time with you when she doesn't have a man.
Then you said she has a boyfriend every other week.
The next time she's single you should make the quickest move you can to try and get with her.
If you do try everything you have to to make it last as long as possible.
Just try to nabb her before another dude moves in.
If she's with a guy now let her know how you feel and if she says her boyfriend doesn't like it, then just man up and tell her you don't give a damn what he thinks. Or just take the Detroit route and say fuck homeboy.Let her know you only care about what she thinks. If she shoots you down keep her as a friend /you know a cuddle buddy or cakin partner or whatever you call it and just find some other girl.
I speak from experience when I say Its extreamly stupid to get caught up on only one girl.
I hope this helps some.

I say meet someone else who wouldn't take you for granted; one who doesn't "use" you, even as a friend. Friends are not supposed to use each other, period!

She is very clear when she says, "NO!" or "My boyfriend won't like it..." So, why waste your time on this girl? Sorry if that sounds crass, but you are just going to end up hurt and rejected, not once but...

I say meet someone else who wouldn't take you for granted; one who doesn't "use" you, even as a friend. Friends are not supposed to use each other, period!

She is very clear when she says, "NO!" or "My boyfriend won't like it..." So, why waste your time on this girl? Sorry if that sounds crass, but you are just going to end up hurt and rejected, not once but over and over.

There are lots of sincere girls out there, just as there are of good guys. I'm sure you're one of them (good guys!).

Unfortunately, she isnt going to give you the time right now. Sounds like both of you are very young still, with that said you should move forward with your life. She knows how sweet you are and she wont forget it either. As you two grow up and mature things drastically change. Im sure someday she will realize how wonderful you are, but Im sure this wont happen until she matures a bit more. She will continue this behavior unfortunately and it will continue to hurt you, so keep your distance, be her friend, be there for ...

Unfortunately, she isnt going to give you the time right now. Sounds like both of you are very young still, with that said you should move forward with your life. She knows how sweet you are and she wont forget it either. As you two grow up and mature things drastically change. Im sure someday she will realize how wonderful you are, but Im sure this wont happen until she matures a bit more. She will continue this behavior unfortunately and it will continue to hurt you, so keep your distance, be her friend, be there for her occassionally. She will always know in her heart that your special, she just needs time to realize it, hopefully when that happens it wont be to late. Good luck!

>Stop & Look at Yourself & Her & what & where you are first!

Life's mortal coils entangle all with five major feelings: What it is to be Human.
I.- to have a love(be it person,ideal, pursuit of achievment,purpose, accomplishment-that the world around you should fall to what you concieve to be...

>Stop & Look at Yourself & Her & what & where you are first!

Life's mortal coils entangle all with five major feelings: What it is to be Human.
I.- to have a love(be it person,ideal, pursuit of achievment,purpose, accomplishment-that the world around you should fall to what you concieve to be right)in which passion will express (blood, sweat & tears are the price of all passions-something vital of yourself must be lost if you're truly invested with your heart & soul).
II.-safe quarter/safe harbour,a place of consistency,to retreat from storms of life's disappointments,failures,defeats & losses;a place in which no winds will stir,currents tow,unknown precipitation(other's tears)fall;where you know the space,the predictability of tides,the brightness of day,the lights at night,& trust the pilot & harbourmaster of whose jobs are reliable & written in stone; for otherwise they would be the jeopardy as if any other pirate of the sea.
III.-Common allegiance against enemies(be it aspects of life,targets of failure
objects of disappointment,phenomena of loss or dissuadement;to be of common defensivenss,of common attitude retribute,of protective withdrawal to lick wounds of ubiquity,or share in recognition that where you were once led even the angels of your life's guardianship rightfully feared to tread-with warning now accepted.
IV.-confidante(s)[*not confident*]of whom you would speak your sacred & secret realities,understandings,knowledges,perspectives & feelings,whether through words,gestures,tacitness,exuberance or its contrary recieved empathically; mirrors with pure reflection of asset & fault, speechless,mute beyond acceptance,understanding your secreted self
allowing time & space for you to breath,reconoiter,self-reflect and, if not recompose, to at least repose, to answer only when called upon in rhettoric.
V.- friend(s) to occupy your time in mortality with mundane pragmatics & superficial things & sensless dreams far from passions wake; life's unrecruitable members for your true venture's meaning on to the course into
open sea,the pursuit of your passions destiny to take with others or alone.

A life without all of these encompassed is a life incomplete.
-Monopolizing one breeds a monster or a fool; a magic mirror,Father confessor,a puppy dog,playmate or thing,a magic cave,closet or kingdom
a blind knight errant or a polite player en comedie'.
-Economizing a few leaves you forever wandering & wondering
with imbalance perturbing orbits of your life into collisions with others
as if subconsciously seeking some transferrence or transfusion as solution
to an unkown anemia.
-Trying to self-compose these may seem to work with a few, but what man or women does not fail for it is the definition of mortality to not be applied to
the physical body alone,and who does not need safety,comraderie, confidence, companionship, allegiance,source of reflection without otherwise being an island,sole,to yourself and with no one to turn. In this, the world then wouldn't matter, & what is passion without witness or unshared.Madness would be regarded to ensue.
-Finding these in five different venues would make you commonplace complete.
-But finding them in right combinations amongst other(s) is what makes life
more refined,unique,with better cross functional design.

Now one may think the perfect couple,two hearts,two minds,two bodies,two souls of common voice shared would be the ultimate solution but this is second best.Not as"birds of a feather"or even as"opposites attract",the better end result would be finding someone who recognizes all of these in understanding of life, holding their values & importance in body,heart,mind, soul & humanity,or at least in both your stages in life,acknowledging those achieved.To be encompassed in several,few or in one may not be as important as being equal in recognition of those that are.Only then will you
not fear that when the other comes to terms with one lacking that you are not,
that their perspectives & path will change.Or at least if one of you hasn't discovered one aspect, but realizes its necessity, then you can grow forward together, not begrudging the other for finding theirs in some not common to yours.
Some say the perfect lover is your safe harbour, quietly letting you heal & reflect, accompanying you into contention or retreat, recourse and your all time best friend. Some say this is too much to bear or bestow upon the other should total loss occur.How the risk is spread to maintain your remnant indivduality to contribute remoteness in some perspectives for the relationship,or whether to protect the one truly concerned,a balance of cathexis,resilience & survivability of each individual must be recognized by
and for both.If one is more so of any of these, then the burden of being all or several my need be lightened for their survivability.This is truth in understanding love, friendship, confidance,comraderie & protectorate being.
Not all may be ecompassable by all.And whichever one you are to her & she to you may not allow transferance to each other for the duties not encompassed.
>This is how you must look at yourself, & equally look at her.
Now,you are not her love,her passion.Are you friends, but then friends would dance together,knowing the innocence of the action.Does she not dance due to fear of seeming more to be construed by an untrusting lover?
Or does she fear you misconstruing the meaning of it?That can be discussed more openly, getting closer to feelings without breeching them.But there is the chance she hides some feelings & is restricting them because she is not complete enough or has not sorted out her compartmentalized aspects fully to each's importance.Then rushing,pushing would be wrong,snuffing a bud. Does she confide in her dates specifics,or just generalizes-"guys are jerks-oh,forget it you won't understand".Does she trust you to let her speak of herself,see her fallacies,weaknesses &wrongs without criticism?Or does she commiserate with you how dating and mates are f(iretr)ucks &
seek common disgust for the moment.Or do you just do everyday obligations and mundane distractions without true life goal meaning,not shared in any
way towards distant future?If none of the above,you may,for now or forever,be her safe harbor,maybe one with unrecognized potential.
Feeling her out versus directly breeching the points that build the five areas or the one's that can exist at her stage is laced with risk.So before addressing these, where areYOU in their respect for existence to each of you?
Do you want to build all in one in someone, or explore recruiting some certain someone as to other areas as you come to know. How much of any the areas will you consider her for?How many would you want to function as for her? Or how many do you believe should be bestowed on one within what time?
Most importantly,can you survive & fulfill the obligations of filling one, or several areas for her without being her lover?Many ex's are still safe harbours, confidantes &/or best friends.Or will denial of one quash the
area you fill?Know your own views & how you can stand in the future.Then find hers.Time,it may take time.
>Indirectly,do you notice how she reacts with other girls as your friends? How about if you exhibit that you are perplexed by someone else's problems, you acting as another's confidante?How about your noticing other women(girls watch you watch better than you'd imagine.Or how does she act when another girl acts inviting or interested in you?Read her!
>Directly,mention someone else's relationship,revealing they have separate or combined lovers/best friends,confidante etc.See her response in eyes & attention.Read her first.Then ask her opinion of multiple existence.Maybe she'll be receptive?If she deflects,then probably no chance(now).
>Even boldly tug her to the dance floor &say why not?Its okay for friends
but if ther's something more, let's talk!

KISMET

Let me clear you one thing that there is a big difference between loving and liking. We say that I love my car; I love my dog...etc, but to a girl we always start with saying "I Like You". So you are not understanding the basic difference between these two words. The simple fact you must know that the girl likes you only.... not love you, as love always binds.