It is indeed.
If there is a possibility of getting your husband into some kind of therapy or marriage counseling, then do it. You would like to at least have some kind of assurance that this will never happen again. It probably will if there is no treatment. It sounds like he is making the same mistake over and over again. This you can not have. If he won't do it, then I think it is a lost cause. Cut your losses.
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It is indeed.
If there is a possibility of getting your husband into some kind of therapy or marriage counseling, then do it. You would like to at least have some kind of assurance that this will never happen again. It probably will if there is no treatment. It sounds like he is making the same mistake over and over again. This you can not have. If he won't do it, then I think it is a lost cause. Cut your losses.
It sounds like you are an accomplished person and can find your way in the world very well. Forgiveness is good, but not without contrition.

This is a very good question! and I maybe able to help as I too have had a fatal attraction.

* First, open a P.O. box (even if your mail box has a lock) and forward ALL mail. Use a CROSSCUT shreder when you are finished with your mail (including junk mail) and dump only portions of the shred at a time.

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This is a very good question! and I maybe able to help as I too have had a fatal attraction.

* First, open a P.O. box (even if your mail box has a lock) and forward ALL mail. Use a CROSSCUT shreder when you are finished with your mail (including junk mail) and dump only portions of the shred at a time.

* Second, Contact credit companies (Transunion, Equifax, Experion) and place a freeze on your credit (even if you think she may not have your social security numbers). Tell them your social security number could have been compromised. The freeze is good for 6 months and can be renewed if needed.

* Third, Find out what you can see about yourself on the internet. You may need to pay for some information. Ask that the information be deleted from thier files. Change all passwords for internet sites every week or two and use a combination of both numbers and letters.

* Forth, Set up an alarm system for your home. This can be cheap and is well worth it since you have kids at home.

* Fifth, If the lease is up, call and get phone numbers changed. If she needs to contact you she can do it by mail. This way you will have what she has o say in writing. Hold on to ALL phone records from the phone company. All comunication should be about a business matter only.

* Sixth, Talk to your neighbors and ask them to keep an eye out for this woman. Even though she if far away, if she is stalking you house you may need to obtain a restraining order.

She will give up sooner or later and move on. This woman will work through her problems (she is a grown woman) on her own. She is only doing this to work at your husbands heart strings so, understand that she has made it this far in life and she will continue to do so without your help.

Unfortunatly, your husband may need to leave his job to work closer to home.

Lastly, you may need to get help from a lawer. Most lawers are well informed about such problems and can be of great help. Look at prepaid legal service companies that have a flat monthly fee and no contracts for thier legal help. These are usually inexpensive.


I hope this information is helpful to you!

*** This information is for informational uses only and is not written by a lawer nor has any guaranty. ***

Honestly, being married for 23 years, that is love. and they say once a cheater always a cheeter. Your probably and amazing women and do no desever to be taken advangate like that. Or treated like that

have he or she arrested

If he can't man up and walk away and stay true to you so you 2 can work it out - let him run back to grandma and remember years from now what he lost. Your better than this and if he can't make up his mind...well. Don't let the door hit ya - make a stand and make him - no options other than you and your family or her - 1 time - 1 choice

i would make him choose between her and you because it shouldnt be that hard of a choice when you have been married for 23 years it seems like he is feeling guilted into doing what he does and i think you should look into filing a restraining order against the girl and then tell my husband to choose and sign the restraining order too but you are going to need to have evidence that she is harrassing you.

That is a tough spot to be in indeed.

That woman sounds to me that she needs some help herself. Tell your husband to cut all connections to her. If she calls don't return them, if she stalks him, get a restraining order. She's like a bad cold that will not go away. I give you kudos for sticking with you man.

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That is a tough spot to be in indeed.

That woman sounds to me that she needs some help herself. Tell your husband to cut all connections to her. If she calls don't return them, if she stalks him, get a restraining order. She's like a bad cold that will not go away. I give you kudos for sticking with you man.

Also don't let your husband take any job that makes him go far away for anymore than 2 days tops, and don't let him go to the same spot several times frequently. I have no doubt that he became lonely and she seduced him. But that is still no reason to condone it. I think marriage counciling would be a good idea for both of you -as a couple-.

Good Luck and I will be praying for you both.

I feel so bad for you.youre in love so you can't see what a creep he is.As long as you two are putting up with the back and forth crap,he'll do as long as he can.Isay get the cops to help you out.This situation is not good,and those are just lame excuses your using.If you step back you'll see there is nothing that will back this situation all right,You have to give a a choice,and live up to it.When he finally realize he can't play you somebody gonna go.I'm assuming your still young enough to find your self another stud ...

I feel so bad for you.youre in love so you can't see what a creep he is.As long as you two are putting up with the back and forth crap,he'll do as long as he can.Isay get the cops to help you out.This situation is not good,and those are just lame excuses your using.If you step back you'll see there is nothing that will back this situation all right,You have to give a a choice,and live up to it.When he finally realize he can't play you somebody gonna go.I'm assuming your still young enough to find your self another stud muffin.When he see's you have somebody else bet is tune will change.you have to be absolutely sure he's done with this Mrs. Robinson though just don't take his word for it,and if you do take him back he better make sure he does some major azz kissing.Me personally I'd take him back.But I'd make sure I made his life hell for a long minute too.just so he gets the point.MY little problem on here awhile back seems very small compared to this. I got alot of azz hole answers mostly from the guys(go Figure).It was about my b.Friend keeping photo's of all his ex's when he knew it bothered me.I read them all rightAnd decided.If It Don't Feel Right it probably isn't! most of these jerks said let him keep his precious pictures.......he had a right........LA LA LA.........I didn't have of my exe's photo's .So I found A handful of photos of me and my ex husband at our wedding.HMMMMMMMMMMM can you say double standard!But still would not give them up.(I was getting kinda weirded out by then.Like what the f---- do you do with these photos when I'm not home.By and by at the end I decided I deserved better and I wasn't gonna settle..so I dumped is stupid azz and got me another who respects me enough not to hurt my feelings.And last I heard him and his photo's where alive and doing fine.YIKES.kow I was with him off and on 8 yrs and loved him deeply.But I'm 53 and decided life is to f-----ing short but up with that bull S---t.sooo any way my advise to you girl is to get tuff you'll find someone else.people only treat you the way you let them.So if your'e hurting I'm afraid it;s your fault for letting it happen.Pick your self up ,hold ypur head up high tll him to go F--- himself and get a babysitter and find you a new one!

You are not gonna like my answer!! But what you are doing is involving yourself in a problem that is not yours to fix. You are allowing yourself to be manipulated by your husband who is relying on your love for him to keep you hanging in there, when what you should be doing is running as far away from him and his "girlfriend" as you possibly can. There is no earthly reason for you to put up with this situation.
When he first told you of his "problem", what you should have d...

You are not gonna like my answer!! But what you are doing is involving yourself in a problem that is not yours to fix. You are allowing yourself to be manipulated by your husband who is relying on your love for him to keep you hanging in there, when what you should be doing is running as far away from him and his "girlfriend" as you possibly can. There is no earthly reason for you to put up with this situation.
When he first told you of his "problem", what you should have done was tell him to end it and end it now!! But since you didn't do that now you are allowing him to have his cake, icecream, and all the trimmings, and eat it too. And the only one who is not being torn apart in this situation is him. He would be running around with a flashlight in the daytime looking for me, and begging me to forgive him. Not still having me and her too.
All the torment you are going through is your fault if you allow yourself to be used in this way. When he leaves you all he will be taking is his behind, and that you can live without, because you sound as if you are financially stable, and don't need him for that,and if you do need him for that, then you start doing some threatening of your own..... Wake up!! Don't be a fool, if he didn't still want her he would leave her in a heartbeat, you better believe that.. He is really not worth your pity and neither is she...... Get yourself a lawyer and get yourself on with the rest of your life. Find someone who is faithful or at least has the balls to tell you when he doesn't want you anymore.