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what if a companion of 8 yrs on and off.insisted on keeping photos of him and all his exes?I asked him to get rid of them ,that they bother me.He says he's keeping them no matter what or how I feel.he's says it's my past.I said exactly.HELLO were in the here and now dumb azz.got into a a huge power play verbal thing,and invited me to leave if I didn't like it.I don't have any pictures of my exes laying around.his aren't out in the open but I still know he has them.It makes me feel he's reliving his past with with these (ahem) ladies.one more thing yes I'm insecure not sure why.but one of the talk shows i watched said if your feeling insecure somone is doing or not doing something they should.I'll take everyone's answer except for the CHURCH LADY.CAN YOU SAY SATAN....lol sorry SNL for all of you that remember. thanx christine
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Christine, Although it might seem odd, I truely believe that it is nothing. People have sentimental attachments to a variety of things(teddy bears, old watches...). Even pictures. They are a part of his past that was probably pretty good, and it probably stresses him out to think that you want to strip him of those memories.Ask him to put them in an envelope and stick them in the closet. Explain that they make you sad and uncomfortable,and that you feel like you are competing with"ghosts"for his attention. The...
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You are right to be concerned. He is doing exactly what you think.
On the other hand you haven't taken vows to be together till death do you part.
This is not a religious statement, It is a statement of fact. Perhaps one of the reasons you haven't is that he is not willing to give up the past. If you ever decide to take this step, this is an issue that should be decided before hand. Until you take that step, is he not entitled to relive his p...
On the other hand you haven't taken vows to be together till death do you part.
This is not a religious statement, It is a statement of fact. Perhaps one of the reasons you haven't is that he is not willing to give up the past. If you ever decide to take this step, this is an issue that should be decided before hand. Until you take that step, is he not entitled to relive his p...
Answer Date: 08:05pm 01/18/08
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I think you have a right to feel the way you do!!!! He is with you now, so what the hell would he need those pictures for? I would either tell him to get rid of them, that if your not good enough to look at in person, then those pictures is all that he will be left with. Or I would find out where he kept them and burn each and every one. Yes that sounds cruel, but thats what I would do, If he wants to live in the past then he needs to do it alone, especially if it makes you feel uncomfertable. He should have some respec...
Answer Date: 01:12am 01/19/08
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If you both have long term commitment then he must get rid of it or you better leave him immediately before you hva a deep scar in your broken heart at later stage.
Answer Date: 02:23am 01/19/08
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You should just let him keep his photos but make it clear that you don't want to see them and you don't want to see them around the house.
He has a right to keep his private photos, but make it clear that it makes you uncomfortable and that it's disrespectful towards your relationship with your companion.
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He has a right to keep his private photos, but make it clear that it makes you uncomfortable and that it's disrespectful towards your relationship with your companion.
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Answer Date: 02:26am 01/19/08
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ask yourself one question? who has him now? it dont matter about the pictures really, like he said it is his past. How much do you really care for this guy? Acting like a 12 year old about the crazy pictures is going to make you lose him. is the pictures really worth fighting over and loosing him? I Still got pictures of old boyfriends and my X husband and NO Im not planning of getting rid of them, like he said it is his past. He can't have a relationship with pictures. but it does remind him where he has come from in h...
Answer Date: 01:43am 01/20/08
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i think he should keep his pictures. it is his life and memories.
lady if you are feeling insecure, that is your own problem and no one else's. if you are taking advice from talk shows, you need your head read.
how does that work anyways. how could someone's activities remote from you affect you?...
lady if you are feeling insecure, that is your own problem and no one else's. if you are taking advice from talk shows, you need your head read.
how does that work anyways. how could someone's activities remote from you affect you?...
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I myself would feel exactly what you are feeling. Although I would not let him keep the pics.What are they used for? To remember when??I think he should only worry about Now instead of then.If he wants to see them, and have rememberence with them, he needs to take a trip back to them.Personally if you are going to stay with someone, I think it is only you two, not 3o other female pics.Ask him how he would like if you would have a box of photos from your past.He probably wouldnt like it.It is just a thought to think abou...
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