No, you can't trust her. Past behavior is the best prediction of future behavior, Dr.Phil always says.

It's pretty standard to have limited trust for your mate at best, because trusting someone means you're sure they'll always do the right thing, and most mates, being human, do the WRONG thing much of the time; if a person shows up late, fails to call when they say they will, forgets to run errands and so forth they are NOT trustworthy in the fullest sense, because they do NOT do what they're supposed to do, what they said or even promised they'd do... and to give them full trust in defiance of the facts is foolish..
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It's pretty standard to have limited trust for your mate at best, because trusting someone means you're sure they'll always do the right thing, and most mates, being human, do the WRONG thing much of the time; if a person shows up late, fails to call when they say they will, forgets to run errands and so forth they are NOT trustworthy in the fullest sense, because they do NOT do what they're supposed to do, what they said or even promised they'd do... and to give them full trust in defiance of the facts is foolish..

I know for me the subject of how to be in a relationship is precious and complicated and challenging. It wouldn't be right to make it look too easy.

You have heard the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, Fool me twice, shame on me!." This sure applies here. There are lots of fish in the sea. You can find one who does not do this. How can there ever be an honest relationship after this? This is not the way you want your life to go.

Mike , you should never rely on her. Of course you would feel bad because you had a relationship and memories with your girlfriend . you know she has come back to you not because she has realized her mistake or something like that but because she might have cheated on some other person as well and he must have thrown her out of his life too. And before she hunts for some-one else , before she finds someone else, she doesn't want to miss out on fun , and thus might have thought of coming back to you. Don't repeat the mis...

Mike , you should never rely on her. Of course you would feel bad because you had a relationship and memories with your girlfriend . you know she has come back to you not because she has realized her mistake or something like that but because she might have cheated on some other person as well and he must have thrown her out of his life too. And before she hunts for some-one else , before she finds someone else, she doesn't want to miss out on fun , and thus might have thought of coming back to you. Don't repeat the mistake or you may have to suffer in future gain because of that.

And don't worry at all. You can find a lot many girls who are honest and sweet worth being friends.

I'm just gonna say it like this.................

Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!

Forgiving is a great thing. That being said, forgetting is just stupid. I'm surprised you're even considering hooking back up with her if she has done this once before. If you're just in it for the fun side, and not looking for a serious relationship, then I guess go for it, but be prepared for vd. If you're looking for something real, it's time to look for someone else.

COMMUNICATION & VERIFICATION--You have to ask her what she is really about in this stage of her life, what she wants now and in future stages, what she is willing to accept to keep the status achieved and what will she do to keep it and protect it. Then(not before) you must tell in answer the same for you regarding her.If she has similar truths about you, she will see where your questioning is leading and participate with confidence she found someone of like. If she hesitates, refuses or deflects the topic, she is n...

COMMUNICATION & VERIFICATION--You have to ask her what she is really about in this stage of her life, what she wants now and in future stages, what she is willing to accept to keep the status achieved and what will she do to keep it and protect it. Then(not before) you must tell in answer the same for you regarding her.If she has similar truths about you, she will see where your questioning is leading and participate with confidence she found someone of like. If she hesitates, refuses or deflects the topic, she is not of like feeling or heart.And you must accept the differences and decide you're both going the same direction with each other, or mismatched or divergent and move on, not forgetting the good times and what you learned about youself in the relationship.Answers may be sparse initially, so trying in time again with patience allows her insecurities to be tempered, her dishonesties honed. Accept it if things aren't right, or if they are, they're not in each other's right time(life stage) interval.
*Just set this one rule in the open, that for anything to happen again this dialogue must occur before you open your life and resources(generosity, money, cohabitation). She knows you now and knows what she's done.You may find she acted because she couldn't read you, or could and played you. She may have even done it honestly by her own rules.You won't know unless you ask, and you risk in what you don't ask about. And proof in later observable performance is needed to confirm validity and truthfulness, hence, the time delay for getting back into full play and rewards
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The question is not to those particular specifics for this incidence, but more for your heart's goals and book of rules. Relationships are never fully open, because everyone has individual rules and value systems. The more common your values, the more likely you both will open up more.Security of heart is found in knowledge of and reliability how someone's heart operates, but hope is always held that the better qualities hold surprises to be seen and benefitted from later. But hearts are fragile, character is something to be judged with time. Some people are afraid to hurt a heart and remain silent, others desire possession or devotion from someone elses character quality , so they keep silent in their quest,hunt or celebrations until they are sure of achievement. The other remains an outsider, deaf.
Your Rules are usually revealed when true long lasting devotion and dedication flow freely both ways.What do you two want individually and together, and can you each admit it or make it known? Selfish ones never reveal theirs, whether out of greed or out of fear they will be vulnerable.
Honesty is what is needed in what one truly wants in the immediate and long future. Do you make it clear you want a partner with exclusivity?Doyou make it clear you provide fidelity equally? Do you seek a final choice in a person to go down the path together and allude to why you choose(not chose) them(every day). Do they believe or accept this and have the same or similar degree of decisiveness with you? Are you not certain what the long term picture is for you, but you want to be together for the trek, realizing things change, and you will grow with each other's changes or try to understand as they happen? Or do you make it known your changes are paramount and will tend to folow them irrespective of the others ability or desire to change and their only choice would be to follow or leave or be left? Does the other purport the same? How well do you trust this, and can you both be open about this trust? If not, the next stage of life may be happy and fulfilling but the future painful and lonely. In old days and arranged marriages, the opposite held: that the near future would be alienating but togetherness would surely produce love.It's like hitch hiking. Who's the driver and who will be picked up and dropped off over part of the ride? Who, in each mind, is the one truely abandoned and who is the one happily going on in their intent? If these things are't brought out, then risks climb for one, and not necessarily for the other who isn't open and demonstrate consistency +(proving even moreso to surprise, not expectation).
>You have to decide your course as a journey intent on destination, or one of determined exploration with a time limit(stage of your life) or one of abandonment to the flow of whatever time throws it to with no effort, just convenience. Are you proactive for what you want, reactive or passive? What of your eyes' desire?Are you a team in concensus or have the skills to mediate each other equally, willingly and acceptingly?

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Its up to you, but as my opinion she already did that to you twice so dont let it happen again to you... if you have a choice dont give her a chance look for the other that you deserve and who will love you and take care of you for the rest of your live.:)

I personally believe that people can change. Everyday we grow and become wiser and things become more important to us as we get older. If she loves you and wants to be a better person for you, why not give this person that you love one more chance? We all make mistakes. Don't we? Once a cheater, always a cheater? No. That's unfair to say. Just because you've done something wrong once or twice, does that really mean you'll do it for the rest of your life? Clearly she's finding she's made a mistake. Yeah, it sucks she had...

I personally believe that people can change. Everyday we grow and become wiser and things become more important to us as we get older. If she loves you and wants to be a better person for you, why not give this person that you love one more chance? We all make mistakes. Don't we? Once a cheater, always a cheater? No. That's unfair to say. Just because you've done something wrong once or twice, does that really mean you'll do it for the rest of your life? Clearly she's finding she's made a mistake. Yeah, it sucks she had to go as far as she has to realize there is no one better out there for her. But if you love her and believe yourself that you and her are right for eachother, then give her another chance. Just keep your eyes open! And remember this, she should be willing to do ANYTHING for you that will help you each day with the insecurity that she has placed inside you. Whatever it takes. For example, call you every other hour if that's what you need. If she's not willing to do what you need (within reason of course) to gain your trust back, then maybe that's your answer. Lastly if you do take her back and she does it again... I'd probably realize at that point that she needs much more than your forgiveness, love, and understanding to be that person she wants to be... not only for you, but for anyone. And that would be professional help.

No, As most people say once a cheater always a cheater. She did it once she will do it again. Dont Trust her anymore.